Episode 476:


Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design. I’m your host, Nicole Laino. And it’s just the two of us today. And today we’re talking to the emotional authorities. This is actually something I didn’t even know it’s a title of this episode. I want to talk about emotional authorities. And it does really boil down to this one sentence that I think can bring you back to remembering what’s important. Because again, human design is so simple in the way that it’s explained. 

It’s almost so simple that’s why we fail to do it, because it’s like these concepts, we’re like, oh, yeah, I get that. And then we don’t do that because we’re not present with ourselves. We forget in the moment. And that’s where practice comes in and that’s where people like me come in who can call you back to this. This actually came from the type Mini Mastermind that we did a couple weeks ago now. And this sort of came up because were talking about people’s process. You know, it’s funny, we’ve got so many questions from people within the Human Design Authority lab. Them asking us about type, about response, about the things that, you know, I think even people like me, it’s like, oh, well, I don’t want to promote something like that because everybody thinks they know it already. 

We do a workshop inside the Human Design Authority Lab every single month. And so I look for topics from our members. I have ideas, but I’m like, what do you guys want? What do you guys need so that I make sure I’m serving that group? And they all came back with a lot of questions about type, which, to my surprise, although not my surprise that they didn’t know these things, but I thought it was actually very perceptive of them to admit that they and that this was a stumbling block for them. And I was like, well, I’m not doing a workshop on type because they don’t need more information. That’s the thing. We don’t need more information about human design. We need integration of human design. And so that’s where the Mini Mastermind idea came from. I’m like, we’re switching this month. 

We’re not Going to do a masterclass where I just teach you stuff for this topic. Bring your questions. Let’s have a discussion. Let’s everybody get in a room, talk about what it’s like for you and how this shows up. And it was all types. We did it. So nobody was excluded from the month’s session. And, you know, human design is also. It’s a difficult thing to just talk about one topic because it’s also intertwined. Type is intrinsically connected to authority. All of this is connected to your open centers, your defined centers, your channels. It’s greater than the sum of its parts. And we can’t really look at anything in isolation. That’s what this show is wonderful. I hope. I hope it’s been a resource for you for understanding your design more. 

And I hope that books and other ways that you’re interacting with it are. But it can be so difficult learning things piecemeal. This is what a center means. This is what type means. We can get very attached to those definitions, and then we can start to think like, well, I know that already. What else can I learn? Because I’m not seeing the results. I’m not feeling the effects. I’m not feeling like my design is just. I’m in alignment all the time. My design is speaking through me. I’m not feeling magnetic. All of those things that we know are results that we can get from human design. They are byproducts of living in alignment. So we’re not doing it. So then we think like, well, what else can I learn so that I can get those benefits? And a lot of times it’s actually backtracking. 

It’s actually coming back to the fundamentals, because we’re normally off with those. Just because you know something does not mean that you are doing it. Just because you have the information does not mean that you are integrated with it. And that is everything about what I do. Everything I do is about integration. That’s what Business by Design is about. That’s what the Human Design Authority Lab is about. How do we get you closer to integrating your human design into your life and understanding yourself, not understanding every single element of the chart, but how do you understand you and how this all works through you? That is a fundamental difference. And I’ll say it’s harder to teach, which is why I think a lot of people don’t. You know, we teach the pieces, but the pieces do add up to something. 

So we’re going to talk about a piece today, but I wanted to bring up how this came up in the type workshop. And even though it was a type mini mastermind, authority came up. Because in order for me to explain where this person was not in alignment, I had to talk to her about her authority. As she was talking, I could hear her and I was like, oh, I bet she’s an emotional authority. So I asked her, I’m like, what’s your authority? Emotional? I’m like, okay, I thought so, but I wanted to check. And the reason for that is because there’s a different way that a sacral generator is going to work or a sacral manifesting generator and an emotional one. And the key is. And what this person was talking about, the question that she came with seemed basic on its surface. 

Seemed like it had a clear answer. But when you understand how an entire chart works and I connected it with her authority, it’s like, oh, you know, hopefully she got to see her process through it and she can carry that into her days and start to change her life. That’s how you can transform people with this system. It’s pretty amazing. So if you would like, I’m actually teaching this workshop about integrating human design into your life. And we’re looking at it through the lens of 2027 and how that change is going to create a greater change and different needs for people than they have currently. And then how do we apply human design now to ourselves and to the people that we work with, the people that we love, the people who are in our lives. How do we come? 

Ambassadors and guides for this system that lead people to their alignment. So if you want to come to that masterclass, that workshop, it’s just a one day workshop. If you’d like to come to that DM me the word “leadership” on Instagram. I’m @nicolelainoofficial or go to nicolelaino.com/leadership if you’d like the guide. The guide is DM me “2027” and go to nicolelaino.com/2027 for that guide. So leadership or 2027 leadership is the masterclass. 2027 Is the free guide where I just tell you about 2027. We’re going to be discussing all of this about how we integrate human design into our lives and the lives of the people that trust us. And how do we do that going forward and what’s that going to look like going forward? So if you want to be part of that, please join. 

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This will all be linked up in the show notes for you as well, of course. Okay, so let’s talk about emotional authorities and what this really looks like, you know, with emotional authorities, there’s like a line that I want you to commit to memory. There’s something that I want you to feel very connected with. That might sound like something you’ve heard before. You know, do you know it, but you’re not doing it. And that’s the problem. We need to start doing it. And again, this comes back to presence. I don’t care what type you are. I don’t care if you are a generator, a projector, a manifester. If you are an emotional authority, what’s going to happen. Remember, emotions are a motor. The emotional system is a motor right now till 20, 27, then it’s going to shift. 

But as everybody who’s living right now has a motor called the solar plexus. And some of us have it defined and some of us have it undefined. Now, that motor, what that means is that is energy. That is a kind of anxious energy. That’s emotional energy that is moving in you, that is working in you. If you are defined there, it’s always going. That’s what the wave is. It is that motor continually creating emotions. It’s creating highs and lows and taking you on the ride of that wave. It is a ride that is always on, right? That roller coaster is always running the track. It’s never stopped, it’s never parked, not doing anything. It’s always changing, right? So we have this motor. 

What motorized energy does for a solar plexus, so defined solar plexus, someone who’s an emotional authority, what they’re going to have is anytime they are in a low frequency of that, it will. That energy will feel not exciting, it’ll feel like anxiety. Being an emotional authority, when you’re in your fear, when you are in lack, when you are in your not self, a lot of times that will feel a lot like that energy will pick up. You’ll start to want to do something with it, right? So your energy, wherever you are with it, you just need to remember that energy is not what you move with and the emotions. So if you’re at the high point of that roller coaster, it might feel really exciting and feel really great. 

If you are at the low point of that roller coaster, it might feel like everything in the world is bad. And that will feel very real to you because it is real to you in that moment. It is the truth for you in that moment that the world looks dark. And it’s true there are dark things happening in the world, but it does not mean that they are as dark as they appear to be. The reason that the Authority path and the strategy for emotional authorities is to wait out the wave. It’s because your view on the world is directly connected to where you are in that emotional wave. Now, that person in the mini Mastermind, she was a generator or a manifesting generator, but she was a sacral. 

And she was saying, you know, I sometimes feel like I get excited about something, I start something, I’m doing the work, and then one day I wake up and I don’t want to do it anymore. And I think she was a manifesting generator, cuz that tracks. And then she’s like. And then I just, I don’t want to do anything. And then she’s like, so then I stop. And she sort of indicated, I think that she feels like that project is over. Or, you know, like, oh, now I don’t. Now the response is gone. Or maybe I didn’t have a response in the first place. That’s usually where people go like, was that a response at all? And first of all, you’re already in your mind if you’re asking that question. If you’re trying to figure that out, you can be curious about it. 

Be like, was that a response? Huh? I wonder, you know, and just leave it there. But for emotional authorities, if they remember. Because what she was saying to me was, you know, I felt great, I was in response, I was working, everything felt good, and then I didn’t. And this is why when I heard her, I’m just like, I need to ask her what her authority is. Because I bet she’s an emotional authority. Because an emotional authority that I said to her, I was like, have you ever considered that could be wave? She’s like, well, how do you know? And I’m like, you wait. Isn’t that fun how the process is just right there in front of your face and you don’t see it? I’m like, you wanted to make a decision right then, is this good or is this bad? 

Does this moment mean that the thing I was doing is no longer right for me? I don’t know, maybe it isn’t. But you’re an emotional authority, you don’t make the decision right there. This is why my mantra for emotional authorities is nothing needs to be decided right now. If you start just looking at that every time you get all worked up about is this right or is this wrong? And you just come back to, nothing needs to be decided right now, it will save your life and will change your Life simple in theory and an explanation difficult in practice. Because what does that require? Requires you to be present. It requires you to see the inner workings of your human design. I’m an emotional authority. So, like, this is something, this is a habit you need to build. You need to build the habit. 

That’s why I always say to people, you know, emotional authorities will get really caught up in, oh, well, I have to wait out my wave to post this thing or to say this thing, or, you know, they’ll tell me they get an idea and then when they go to do it and put it out in the world, like, it’s not there. And I’m like, why didn’t you post it right away? Or why didn’t you write it right away? Or why didn’t you do this right away? And they’re like, well, I have to wait out my wave. And you don’t need to wait out your wave for things like that. 

The reason it’s such a hard lined rule in the way that we explain human design and why it sounds so rigid is because you need to build a habit of asking yourself that question all the time. Of like, nothing needs to be decided right now. You know, I can wait. You get to wait. You don’t have to, you get to. And so when that fear kind of creeps up or when your mind gets involved, it starts questioning everything in your world, oh, no, that felt good yesterday, it doesn’t feel good today. Does that mean it was never right for me? Does that mean I shouldn’t go forward with this? Does that mean I need to come up with a new direction? Does that mean I need to create a new offer? Oh now I don’t know what to do now. 

I need to sit down and think about what I need to do. And now you are out of your process completely. And all you had to do was say, nothing needs to be decided today. This is just a moment. Maybe I’m in a point of my emotional wave where I don’t feel like doing this because when I’m low in my emotional wave, I don’t feel like doing much of anything. This is the difference between understanding how human design feels in your body and moves in your life and is influencing your life and your experiences and your decisions versus understanding cognitively what this stuff means, right? Do you see the difference? Do you get what that difference is like? Because it’s everything. It’s everything. 

To be able to have the presence in the moment, to say, I am always experiencing some sort of emotional frequency and that changes the way that I experience the here and the now. So in order for me to understand how I feel about this thing that’s in front of me right now, I need to wait to know how, as the emotions move, does my relationship to this thing change or does it stay the same? As my emotions go up, do I like it more? Do I experience it differently? As my emotions go down, do I experience it differently? Then that tells me this is an emotional thing, not actually a verdict on how I feel about this decision in this moment in time. This is why we wait. It’s not a sentence. It’s actually quite freeing. 

It’s the most freeing thing when you actually start to do it, when you actually start to not make decisions right away because you realize that you really don’t have to. And that was a lie, that was conditioning, telling you all along that you needed to be on the timeline of everybody else. If you are an emotional authority, you are unknown. Nobody’s timeline. Now, some people will say, oh, well, sometimes there’s opportunities that pass me by or that, you know, yeah, me too. I joined things late. I sometimes miss out. I pay more for things sometimes because the window for getting a discount on something is not in the window of me getting clarity. And I’m okay with it because it is far more expensive for me energetically and monetarily to go against my process and to be on somebody else’s timeline. 

And I have had people where I’ve told them, I actually need a bit more time. Could I maybe get that discount if I were to sign up and pay in full? And some people have told me flat out no, and that’s fine. But it’s always a no if you don’t ask. And some people have actually said yes. And I’ve gotten a discount anyway. One time, it was even an error. I got the discount. They gave it to me even though it was after the time. You know, this is how it works. So we close doors and stuff. On bbd, I have people that are an emotional authority that have a clarity call with me and I tell them. I’d be like, you know, if you need more time, that’s okay. I’m happy to hold the doors for you. 

You just need to email me because the link won’t be available. And they do and they appreciate that. I want everybody who joins, especially somebody making a decision like signing up for a year with me in Business by Design, which is a high ticket mentorship where we’re working side by side. I want them to feel like that’s the best decision they’ve ever made. I want them to feel like it’s a hundred percent right for them. And emotional authorities, a lot of times they can’t get that clarity yet. They need time to feel really grounded in the decision. So you honoring it is where it starts. And yes, there will be some times where you miss out on something. I joined the retreat that I joined. 

I went to the expanders retreat a couple weeks ago, and I joined that a week before because I didn’t have a yes. I didn’t like. It fell off my radar. There were all these things and I was kind of sitting with it. I sat with it for an extra week before I messaged them. And I submitted the application and I got in and I was happy when my application was accepted. But I knew full well I was like, they might not. They might be like, you’re too late, girl. We’re planned, we’re full, we can’t fit you in. But luckily that wasn’t the case and I went and it was wonderful. So I hope the emotional authorities, I hope you’re seeing how this works. And remember your mantra. Nothing has to be decided today. Nothing has to be decided right now. 

If you can start to live by that, I promise you will notice your energy changes about everything. You will be in your body, because you’re not in your body when you are like, I have to make this decision. You are caught up in all of your emotions trying to do something. So you’re either working yourself up, trying to figure out answer to something that you haven’t felt into completely. That will create a unstable emotional energy in you. That will create an unstable frequency. You will not attract what you want in that frequency. You will also. Most people will pick up on that if they are. Certainly if they’re in your physical presence, they will feel that. And remember, as emotional authorities, we are responsible for that emotional quality of the frequency because we are the transmitters of it. 

We are the ones that are either holding that frequency in its highest expression or we are in the lower expressions and contributing to the unstable emotional frequency that’s out in the world. We get to hold it. And it’s a big responsibility. And I don’t mean we’re not putting it on you. It’s not your fault, but it’s a responsibility. We carry an emotional energy. People feel that from us. We want it to be good. It’s consistent for us. Remember, wherever something is consistent, it’s consistently there. So we want it to be consistently good. As much as possible. And the way that we do that as emotional authorities isn’t about getting everything right. It’s just standing up for yourself and allowing yourself to be on your own timeline, not. Not somebody else’s. 

And if you are questioning yourself and you find that you get worked up in emotional energy, that is a sign that you are trying to force the process. It’s not your way. It’s not how it works. And come back to yourself. Nothing has to be decided right now. Okay. I hope you enjoyed this. I hope you come to the masterclass, which is all on creating transformation with human design in the era of the 2027 change in the era of the Sleeping Phoenix. So that is. That is coming up. All you have to do to register is just go to nicolelaino.com/leadership or DM me “leadership” on Instagram. I’m at @nicolelainoofficial. And yeah, we’ll leave it there if you want the info for the guide. I’m not going to say it again because it just is confusing as you’re listening to it. 

To download the FREE 2027 Shift Guide DM “2027” to Nicole on Instagraminstagram.com/nicolelainoofficial or go to nicolelaino.com/2027 

Do register for the FREE 2027 Change: Leadership in the Paradigm of the Sleeping Phoenix Workshop DM Nicole “LEADERSHIP” on Instagram instagram.com/nicolelainoofficial or go to nicolelaino.com/leadership

But it’ll be in the show notes if you want it. Okay. All right. I hope to see you there. It’s a free workshop, so there’s no reason not to join. There will be replays available if you cannot join us live. Okay. Thank you so much for being here with me. I appreciate you. And remember, in. In order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakable human. So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design. We’ll see you next time.