Episode 440:


Hello and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design. I’m your host, Nicole Laino, and I am so happy to be here with you. Wow. We’re doing our second episode of the new year. How are we all feeling? This one is going to be specifically about upgrading who you are. We’re at the beginning of the year, and one of the things that I wanted to talk about is January is really about. We think that it’s about hitting the ground running, and it is to some degree. But we can often feel like we’re already behind on January 5, January 6, January 7. It can already feel like we’re behind, like we’re not there yet. And that is a definite function of the fact that we are in January is a month of pressure. But remember how pressure works. Pressure works where it builds. 

It builds and builds and builds until there is enough pressure for it to do what it needs or it needs to be released. We’re still in the building phase. So if you feel like you are behind, if you feel like you are feeling pressure, then the key is to not try to outrun the pressure. That’s one of the lessons that human design teaches us, is that you can’t outrun pressure. You can’t get rid of it. It doesn’t just go away. You have to learn to work with it. And you don’t work with it by forcing it to do something too soon. You have to allow the pressure to build or you’re fighting against it. So now is not the time. This beginning of January. 

If you’re listening to this episode when it airs, the beginning of January is not a time for you to be pushing. It’s a time for you to be planning. It’s a time for you to be checking in on your vision that you set for yourself in 2025. I’m. I’m a big believer in you plan so that you have some structure and allow those plans to change. So I plan always at the end of the year for the following year. I’m always looking forward, so I don’t feel like I’m wondering what I’m going to do. I don’t want to feel like I’m pulling things together too much, but I’m reassessing them all the time. And this is absolutely one of those reassessing points. 

But now is the time for you to dial in the vision for 2026 and really be looking at what is it that feels right for me right now? What is the purpose that I have? What is the direction that feels really true for me? What are the ambitions that I have that I want to make a reality this year? And if you have those ambitions, you know, we’re going to talk about upgrading your identity in this episode, because if you have ambitions and you have new levels that you want to achieve, it’s going to require a new level of identity from you. And this is the part that a lot of people leave out. They leave out the idea of them having to change. Or we do some worksheets and we answer some questions, but we’re not really looking at it. 

We look at what we have to do in the new year. A lot of times we don’t necessarily put as much attention on who we have to be outside of asking maybe some really surface level questions about that. And that’s what we’re going to be addressing in today’s episode. Now, in the last episode that I did just a couple of days ago, episode 439 on recalibrating the G Center, please go listen to that if you didn’t listen to it already. Because I went into, you know, how the G Center works and what it means to have it calibrated to what you want and what it means to have it calibrated to misalignment to something that’s not right for you. And today I want to speak about, specifically about the identity. 

So if you didn’t listen to the recalibration episode, listen to that, and then come back to this one, you could honestly listen to them in, you know, out of order. It would be fine. I think you know enough about this stuff to glean what I’m saying. But listen to both of them. Definitely. You can pick the order. Obviously, I did that one first for a reason. But if you’re listening to this one and you’re like, nicole, I don’t want to go back in the player and find a new one and go back and listen to it and then come back to this one, that’s fine too. You do you. So we talked about recalibrating the G Center in the last episode, but today we’re going to talk about upgrading our identity specifically, how do we step up into a higher level of ourselves? 

And that’s really what I want to discuss in this episode. I want to focus on it. I wanted to focus these two topics because they can get a little conflated sometimes. And I want to make sure that we’re pulling them apart so you can see these two concepts at work. But. But if you are interested in this topic, if you are interested in upgrading your identity and doing it through recalibrating your G center, so doing this in a conscious and unconscious way, doing this, working on the energetic side and on the strategic side, because that’s what I’m all about here. If you’re interested in that, please come to the recalibrate workshop that I’m doing. This is all about aligning your identity to the frequency that your vision is at. And we’re going to be hosting that on January 20th. 

Even if you listen to it after, you can still buy the replays. But if you’re listening to this before, please sign up for this. This has the potential to really make or break your goals for 2026. Because this is sort of the cosmic backdoor that a lot of people bypass. They don’t realize that if you have been setting goals for yourself, setting intentions, but you feel like maybe every year you feel fall short of your goals, every year you’re kind of struggling with lessons more than getting what you want and checking things off your list and noticing how you are progressing and feeling like that is an easy thing, then there’s most likely identity work that you need to do. 

And if you’ve done some identity work with the workshops and like worksheets and things like that before, where you’ve asked yourself the questions of like who do I need to be? And you’ve come up with things like this is what my highest self’s morning routine would be like, this is what my highest self would dress like. And you have that picture but it’s not coming through for you, or you feel like something is just still not happening in that arena for you, that you don’t feel different, then this is probably that secret that you have been looking for, that key that has been elusive for you. So I highly recommend you showing up to this. It’s going to be awesome. 

We have a regular session and then we also have a bonus session where I’m going to go into some roll gates and some other really cool things, that extra human design stuff that we go into in a Q and A so you can ask questions and all of that. So we have that set aside. But this is a working session. So this is not like a masterclass where I’m just going to tell you a bunch of stuff. This is a working session where we’re going to be resetting your identity and recalibrating your G Center in the workshop. So it’s a very hands on thing. So I hope you can make it. All you have to do to get access to it and to purchase is go to nicoleliano.com identity or DM me the word identity on Instagram. 

To sign up for the G Center: Identity Upgrade Workshop DM Nicole “GCenter” on Instagram athttps://www.instagram.com/nicolelainoofficial or go to Nicolelaino.com/gcenter

I’m @nicolelainoofficial and we will sign you up right there in the DMs. We’ll get you the link and everything. All right, cool. So let’s talk about the two different things. We have conscious upgrading and we have unconscious upgrading. The unconscious definitely has a lot to do with the recalibration that we’re talking about in the G Center. The G Center is the key for this. But the problem with the way that upgrading your identity is usually taught is there’s typically inherent conditioning in it. Most coaches, the way that they teach it is that they say this is what worked for me. Which honestly, I mean, it’s valid. They’re selling you their success story. They’re saying this is what worked for me here. Maybe it’ll work for you too. @

But what you’ve probably found is that a lot of that stuff doesn’t end up working for them. Because what worked for them and might be the exact thing that worked for them, that made them a millionaire actually puts you right into your not self. I see this all the time. I see this with well meaning parents. So that’s the other thing with this G Center workshop that we’re doing. Anybody who’s interested in human design should really take this because if you don’t understand how the G Center works, you’re kind of missing the whole thing. This is the whole piece that pulls you on your path of purpose in this life. Everything that people come to human design for really does sit in the G Center. 

Obviously there’s a whole chart to work with, but the G Center tells you so much about the person and how they operate and what’s going to be correct for them and what their life might look like and what’s the correct path for them to find their path versus just, you know, go find your path. I see so many well meaning parents get frustrated with their kids and get upset with their kids or guide them wrong or don’t guide them at all. Don’t give them what they need because they’re guiding them based on what worked for them. Versus what is right for the kid. And it’s not their fault. They want to do the right thing. 

And eventually, when they find me and we’re working together, usually it’s my private clients, but I’ve had clients come to me, and they’re like, you know, my son is just really like, he just needs to find some direction in life, and he just doesn’t know where he’s going. And I don’t know. We’ve talked about this, and they’re giving this kid advice that they really believe will help them, but they’re also parents, and they’re worried, and then they’re either frustrated or worried about their child. And these are all coming from, again, from a really good place of wanting to help. But what they end up doing is making the kid feel wrong for being who they are and doing what feels right to them. And sometimes the kid is a bit lost. 

Sometimes the kid does need help, but they’re not guiding them in the way that’s correct for the kid to find that they’re guiding them in the way that worked for them or the way they wished that they were guided in their life. So it’s the exact same thing. Well, meaning people saying, here’s my advice to you based on my personal experience. And here, now you go do it. Then you take that advice, you run with it, and you run into a brick wall, and you think you’re the problem, and that’s not the case. The key is to do the unconscious work first. That’s what’s usually missing. Because we’ll say, like, you know, you have to figure out who you are. You have to figure out who you want to be. 

Well, someone who has an open G center that actually might do more harm than good. So we have to really honor the design of someone first and then determine what advice, what work will get them to the destination that they choose or really to the one that’s correct for them. Because we don’t get to choose the destination, because usually that would require some sort of forcing. And that’s not what we teach with human design. We teach alignment, and human design will find your path of alignment. It. It will find you what’s correct for you. And then the idea is that things are taken care of in that space. Things become easier in that space. So the key is really to approach that unconscious work and then approach the conscious awareness, the habits, the routines. What does she look like? What does she feel like? 

And doing that in a way that supports the G center makeup that you have. And Then there’s also. There’s all of these other aspects to the G center. It’s such a complex piece. But this is the main key for the unconscious work, is this center of identity. The way you process your identity and the way that you feel and relate to your own identity is going to vary person to person. And the way that makes you feel, what fuels your identity, that matters based on your channels and what connects to your G Center, the gates that are activated, or if you have any at all. All of this determines what your personal identity is. 

And what’s going to be your correct path, what’s going to be the thing, what’s going to be the right set of codes, so to speak, that lock you onto your path, which also might be the same thing that take me right off of mine. So the health of your G center determines. Does determine your path in life. I suppose the health of this center determines your path in life in the sense that it will either take you to where you’re meant to go, or you are trying to engineer things and you’re misaligned. And you have a GPS that has the wrong codes put in. So you don’t end up in a place that is right for you. You end up feeling lost. And that’s what happens when we have an unhealthy or a conditioned G center. 

But when we’re upgrading our identity to match the life we desire. There are multiple paths that we could take. But there is only one correct path for the individual. That is you. And there are these certain codes and energies that bring you closer to who you were meant to be. And then there are the codes that worked for everyone else that you keep trying to pick your own lock with. And it’s not working. So the next level you is operating at a different frequency than you’re at right now. Yes, they do different things. Yes, they dress differently. Yes, they think differently. All of that is true. But that comes from deconditioning. That doesn’t just come from writing answers down on a piece of paper. That’s the start of it. 

The work of it is actually changing yourself from the inside, which then changes you from the outside. This is exactly why I’m hosting the recalibrate workshop, because I believe in this so much. This is very much a new year, new you kind of setup. But it’s a new year, next level you, not new you. It’s the you that you were always meant to be. If these codes never got taken out of their realm, if they never got miscalculated, if you never got turned around, this workshop is designed to bring you back home. 

So please, if you have a vision for 2026 and you want to bring it to life and you want to be the person who is able to make that happen and to be able to walk the path of your purpose with courage and trust and ease versus struggle and second guessing yourself and wondering if the path is right, is this really where I’m supposed to go? If you found yourself asking for guidance, saying, you know, please just show me my path. This workshop is made for you. That’s exactly who I created it for. So I encourage you to show up. This is going to be great. All you have to do to register is go to nicoleliano.com identity or go to Instagram. I’m @nicolelainoofficial and DM me the word identity and we will sign you up there. 

But I’m going to go into great detail and like I said, this is a working session. We are working through this entire thing. This isn’t just me giving you a few quick tips. This is gonna be working through the entire all of the gates of the G Center. What’s the difference between being defined and undefined? We’re going to do that conscious work of upgrading how you see yourself and even working some of the other things in the chart into it. So it’s gonna be really powerful. You will walk away with a very different view on who you are and how to step into your highest self each and every day. So I hope to see you there. Thank you so much for being here. I appreciate you. And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must first become an unshakable human. 

So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design. We’ll see you next time. 

To sign up for the G Center: Identity Upgrade Workshop DM Nicole “GCenter” on Instagram athttps://www.instagram.com/nicolelainoofficial or go to Nicolelaino.com/gcenter