Nicole Laino (00:30)
Hello and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design. I’m your host, Nicole Laino and it’s just you and me today. And I have a little celebration before we start with the episode. It is our 500th episode, and that is such a huge milestone for me, for the show, for my team, and for every person who has listened to the show. I just want to say thank you.

If this is your first episode checking us out, or if you have been listening from the very beginning, or you listen to every single episode that I drop and send me messages when you haven’t heard from me in a while, or when I skip an episode or something, if you have done that anywhere on that spectrum, I am so so grateful. This show has done more for me in own growth.

Both in how I show up in my business and what it’s done for my business as far as, you know, the revenue we get to make, the impact I get to make, how easy my business is, how much structure it has given me to make sales and do all of the practical things. But it’s also helped me really step into my purpose and discover what it is that all of this human design stuff is and how it works through me has really come through this show.

so much of it has. So I wouldn’t be able to do that if people didn’t listen. And so I am grateful to every single person who has ever listened to this show. And 500 is a big number. So I’m also I’m pretty proud of me too because I have recorded 500 episodes, 500 ideas and conversations that I have put out into the world. And I do believe that

Because I have been consistent with this, it has strengthened something inside of me, but it’s also provided me with a lot too. And it’s been a great lesson in what consistency of putting yourself out there can do for you and your business and just helping you understand who you are, which is really what this show is about. So thank you. Thank you for being on this ride with me. But that’s not what this episode is about, but it is kind of about these topics.

it it’s about today I wanna talk about, you know, what do we do when your purpose feels too big to claim? So this is for everybody who has studied their human design, or maybe you just came to it but you’re like, you know, I I I hear this system can tell me what my purpose is. I wanna know. So you read about it and you think about it and you

download your chart and you read Instagram carousels and you listen to podcasts like this one and you buy some some lectures that Ra gave in the 90s and you you’re trying to take it all in and you’re trying to figure it all out. And I I wanna say that that’s probably part of the reason that you’re it y it’s doing two things to you. You’re growing and you’re also probably

Stepping back from the real important parts in that process. So for everybody who has stepped, you know, closer to their calling, and then they get more scared, not less scared, this is for you. I say that as someone who has done both, who has walked toward their purpose and shied away from it as well.

Where sometimes it’s felt so big that it’s just been daunting. And I’m like, well that comes with a whole lot of really uncomfortable things. And that comes with a lot of risk. Because what happens if I can’t make money? What happens if people cancel me because of the things that I’m saying or the way that I’m presenting myself? What if it all falls down? Because I do the thing that feels right.

It gives new meaning to that phrase, new level, new devil, right? It’s like as you climb it and and I don’t mean climbing like getting having more achievements. I mean climbing like like ascending in your level of consciousness and your level of being who you’re meant to be. You start to ask yourself as you get more and more into this work.

Sometimes you learn more about yourself and you say, Really me? Could I actually do this? Could this really be what I’m here for? So in this episode, what I want to explore and show you is that that fear is a signpost that you are right at the threshold of the next level of the thing that’s meant for you. It’s not proof that you’re not ready or that it’s not right for you or that you can’t do it.

Okay. So that’s what we’re gonna kind of break down here. I some of this will be from my own experience of what I’ve seen, and then some of it’s going to be from me working with hundreds of people in on stepping into their purpose. Because this is what we are here for. This is our purpose in our human design purpose is the signature that we are meant to make.

And put out into the world. There’s a reason that I was born with all of the signs and all of the gates and all of the channels and the things that I have. There’s a reason I was born the way that I was born. And there’s a reason you were born the way you were born. Not just so you could have an experience. That’s that is your design.

But what we’re gonna talk about in this episode, when we’re getting to purpose and we’re getting to Incarnation Cross, and we’re talking about, you know, this big life theme that we have, that is not for us. That’s for everybody else. That is the part that says by being yourself and having the experience you’re supposed to have, other people get to benefit from it. You are suddenly making the mark on the world that you’re meant to make.

And nobody else could do it the way that you’re meant to do it. This is your contribution to the whole. So we’re gonna explore all of that in this episode. Before I get started, I do want to let you know we have a free guide on Incarnation Cross. If this topic interests you and you want to know more about your Incarnation Cross and your purpose theme in life, what it is, how it plays out through you, and how you can start to break it down.

We have a free guide. Just DM me the word incarnation cross and you can get that guide on Instagram. I’m at Nicolino Official. Or if you want to join us for, I am actually taking people through their purpose. I’m doing a two-week mastermind, mini mastermind that I’ve done before. It’s called answering the call because it isn’t just about having a calling. We all have one, but not everybody will pick up that phone when it rings. Not everybody will answer the call when it comes through.

And I don’t want that to happen to you. And it’s been my experience that the best way to do this with people is not to have a course. It is not to just think about these things. There’s there’s there is a interaction, an interactive way to go through this that moves people along very quickly. And like I said, we did this before in October of last year.

And it was so well received. We had so many people do this and go on this little journey with us. And it was so awesome that we’re gonna do it again. If you want to get in on that, just DM me the word purpose on Instagram. I’m at Nicole Lano official, and you can get all the information there. And we’ll have it all linked up in the show notes for you as well. So if you want to pop down there and just hop over to the website, those links will be in the show notes for you. Okay. So

Let’s talk about this pattern, this like I call it like the purpose cha-cha. We take one step forward, one step back, two steps forward, one step back, three steps forward, sometimes four steps back, you know, depending. And it sometimes it feels that way. The more progress we make, the scarier it gets. This is what self-sabotage is, right? You feel the pull towards something bigger, and you instantly like talk yourself out of it.

Why is it that when we start to get what we want, or we start to, you know, you go on a journey to discover your purpose? Because I really do think of it as discovering. Even though human design can tell you what your purpose theme is, and it has been working through you and trying to make its way out your entire life, it is it is not something that you can just intellectually understand. You discover it.

On the journey where you’re like, wow, it’s already shown up. I guarantee you. That’s why when we go in in in answering the call, it’s always so interesting. We have you r recollecting and mining your life to see these themes. They’ve been everywhere. They’ve been everywhere throughout your whole existence. And sometimes you’ve wrestled with them more than walked with them. And that is an interesting and important detail.

And that’s what we discover again, discovering in this journey. But the reason that this happens, the reason that you know, when you start to feel the pull and then you talk yourself out of it because it’s scary, it’s because your calling isn’t supposed to be something easy. It’s not a small goal that we have. This is your life’s purpose.

This is like the big question on everybody’s mind since the you know the dawn of existence has been what are we here for? So this this this purpose that feels too big, it’s because it is big. It was never meant for the small self. It was never meant for you just as an individual. It’s for everybody. It isn’t just meant.

for your smallest, scared little self. It’s meant for the biggest version of you that can handle it. It’s why we don’t live it from the day we’re born. We haven’t grown into it yet. We haven’t become the type of person that can walk with this type of purpose.

With this type of of weight.

Right?

We have to grow into it. And this there’s this idea that growth feels great. I’m growing. No, growing pains is a real thing. Growth feels like shit. While we’re going through it, I don’t know what a caterpillar feels like when it turns into goo inside a chrysalis and then comes out as the butterfly. I don’t know.

I would imagine it’s kind of crazy. But you are on a metamorphic journey. And human design actually gives you a process. It actually says, like, you’re a caterpillar, then this is what you’re gonna do. You’re going to spin yourself into this chrysalis, into this little cocoon, and then you’re going to wait. It gives you a process for actually going on this journey with yourself and planting your cross throughout your life.

A lot of times we are walking without that practice, without that path. We want to grow, but we don’t know how. So we buy books and we, you know, go to Tony Robbins events or read Chicken Soup for the Soul or some other a self-help book that we think will get us where we are meant to go.

But human design actually gives you a purpose that is aligned within you. It gives you a practice that’s aligned within you. Because that might be Tony’s process or, you know, Jack Canfield’s process or somebody else’s process. It could be, you know, the that might have worked for them. But we all know that that’s what’s so powerful about human design. Is that it’s your framework to experience your experiences that you are meant for, to to ultimately.

Have you grow into your purpose so you can make the contribution that you’re meant to make?

That fear that we can’t do it, that fear that it’s so big, that fear that every time you go to share what you believe is your purpose, or show up and make your mark, or ask for help for somebody from somebody so that you can grow and change and do what you need to do. And this is a business podcast, so we we

speak mostly to entrepreneurs here. So I’m gonna speak some entrepreneur language, but it doesn’t have to be within your business that this is coming through.

But if you have a message and you feel like you have a message and you’re sitting on it because you’re scared, you know, that is normal. But at some point you have to make a choice to no longer give your power away to it. At some point, you have to accept that fear is the doorway. Fear means go. Do not confuse fear for misalignment. I see people do it all the time.

They’re like, well, you know, I I it doesn’t feel aligned for me. So I didn’t do it. I don’t know. I just feel like it’s it’s not aligned. You’re scared. You’re scared. Nine out of ten times you’re scared. And I have a ton of compassion for being scared. I’m scared all the time. I have resistance all the time, but you’re resisting what you really want. You have

to walk through it or you will always regret never walking through it.

Cause who said reaching your divine potential would be easy? Your soul came here to grow. And human design shows you the path that you are meant to walk to have the growth you’re meant to have.

It shows you how you are meant to navigate this life.

And you know, and I understand how how this can feel. It can feel like and I think that we are at a turning point right now. Right? for a long time it could feel like growth, especially in the business context, could be so aligned with achieving things. I achieve this thing, I get this goal, I reach this marker, I meet reach this milestone. And that can be hard for spiritual people who have a hard time with

Ego and feeling like they need to be humble. I see that a lot. You know, they can shy away from that spotlight because it feels egoic, it feels showy, it feels like, look at me. And they’re like, I just want to help. Well, guess what? The North Node just moved into Aquarius, the South Node moved into Leo. I just did an episode on that all that whole thing. So if you want more on that, please go listen to that. But the South Node and Leo.

Is letting go of all of that egoic, I need it for me. I need everybody to look at me. And Aquarius is calling you to say, but it doesn’t mean you get to hide. It doesn’t mean that you have nothing to say. You just need to let the calling be bigger than your fear. Aquarius is calling you that spiritual entrepreneur who’s out there shying away.

Not being consistent, not showing up because there’s something inside that’s telling you you don’t have the time, that’s telling you that you don’t have the ideas, that’s telling you that it’s hard. That’s really just a part of you that’s scared. And Aquarius is calling you out, most of all.

We are six months out, so the day that this episode drops is a Monday. This Friday, the fourteenth of August, is exactly six months to the day until we are in the cross of the sleeping Phoenix background frequency. The era of the Phoenix is just about here. We are absolutely within orb of feeling that. We are feeling

it now.

It feels like a lot of things are changing. Doesn’t it? Don’t you feel that?

And now with the nodes, I I swear the nodes have been pushing us.

All of this year, since January, we had the nodes in the gates of the cross of planning. We had the forty thirty-seven. Then we had the fifty-five fifty-nine, which is the gates of the cross of the sleeping phoenix. And now we have shifted over into the Aquarius gates, the twenty nine and the thirty.

This year has been training us and getting us ready for the 2027 change. I am so convinced of that. Not from a mental place, from a, my God, it feels like all of these old ways are just being shed, like where we can’t go back to them. The new one we’re not going to be able to go back to is letting the ego get in the way of.

The mission. You have a mission. And every individual is going to have to play their part because we cannot rely on the systems and the governments and all of this infrastructure that we’ve gotten so lazy with. We are going to have to show up. Every individual counts. We are being called.

And I know you want to discover your potential. And the collective needs you to contribute your exact energetic signature. It needs you to show up as yourself. It isn’t more complicated than that. But please don’t mistake me in s in thinking that I’m saying that it’s easy to be yourself. It’s not, because we’ve been trained during our entire lifetimes to be anything but ourselves, to conform to what society said we should be.

Or what we thought would get us love.

what we thought would get us six success, what we thought would get us accepted.

But that’s not what we are called to. The collective needs us to be us. It needs you to be you. And I don’t expect you to do it alone. I don’t. And I don’t say any of this to scare you. I think the next few years are probably going to be jarring because so much change is happening.

I think twenty twenty six has been pretty jarring. We’ve had a lot of change where it just feels like, whoa, you know, I’m okay, but I feel like I’ve had to learn a lot of new internal energetic skills to navigate all of this change. Things don’t feel the same anymore. It’s because they’re not.

That’s okay.

But in the new world you will have to be yourself or this is gonna feel really untenable.

And your purpose is more important than ever. So if you want help to kick off this journey of discovery with this, I encourage you to join us for answering the call. It is one of my favorite things that we’ve ever done. It is, and like I said, because of the way that the sessions are structured, it is mastermind style. So it’s a short mastermind.

But and it’s focused on that one topic, you’re gonna get audio drops from me every day. So if you like listening to me on this podcast, you get an audio drop with a little bit of homework for you to do every single day, every weekday. We give you the weekends off. But every single weekday, we give you an audio drop for something to relate to, understand about your your incarnation cross. We get you to deeply connect with this theme.

We do a live session at the beginning and the end, and then we have a telegram chat in between. So what we’re doing with this is the ability here is that we get to have conversations. I get to move people so much faster like this than I ever could in any sort of program or course. This is my favorite way to work with people, and I found a way to make this incredibly affordable by doing it for the short period.

And making it on this one very focused topic that I think is so important and that I believe in so, so very much. So if you want to join us for that, DM me purpose on Instagram, I’m at Nicole Lano Official, or just go down to the show notes and you can you can click the link there and go straight to the website and sign up. And if you just want the free guide on Incarnation Cross, maybe that’s the first step you want to take.

DM me Incarnation Cross on Instagram again at NiholenoOfficial or click the link below in the show notes and we’ll take you there, right there from the website. All right. Thank you so much for being here. I hope this inspired you to go deeper into your purpose one way or another. And thank you again for being here for 500 episodes. I am so, so grateful and very, very excited and proud as well. Thank you so much. And remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakable human. So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human

design.

We’ll see you next time.