Nicole Laino (00:30)
Hello and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design. I’m your host, Nicole Laino and today I want to talk about human design, I want to talk about manifesting, and I wanna talk about Neptune, which changed signs earlier this year and shifted from Pisces into Aries. And I think that’s probably where this conversation starts.

So Neptune and Pisces, which was there for a number of years, Neptune and Pisces was where we saw this big explosion of the word manifesting everywhere. It was where it kind of took over the coaching world. It was being, you know, exploded in books and things like the Gaia network where it was all really revolved around this like

getting what we want through our energy, through our thoughts. We have gurus and thought leaders like Joe Dispenza and Gabby Bernstein leading that charge on a very global level. And then we have people who are more niche and in this coaching space for sure, where some of the names that come to mind when I think about manifesting,

We have Catherine Zenkina, which is the manifestation babe. We have Melanie Ann Leyer. There are a lot of people in this space that sold manifesting. And none of that is wrong. It’s very much a real thing. But Neptune and Pisces had it had us really thinking that that was everything. And I think that there were some of us, even during that time, that were like, well, it’s not everything. It’s and and I joke on here all the time. If I I haven’t found a way

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manifest everything that I want just by sitting on my meditation pillow and tuning into it. However, when I take action and I do that, I can manifest quite a bit. I’ve manifested a whole lot in my life, including a chicken that is in my backyard right now. I totally manifested her. But it’s a story for another time. But then we had Neptune move signs and change into shift into Aries. So Neptune

Stationed into Aries earlier this year. And now Neptune is the planet of it’s the veil. Neptune is a lot of dreaminess, so it can be kind of where we get lost. It can be a place where we have like like fogginess, something that feels kind of nebulous, and we can’t really get our hands around. And it can it can add a lot of distortion.

when Neptune enters into something or or has aspects to our own natal chart. So Neptune in Pisces, they go together. that is Neptune is the ruler of Pisces in modern astrology. So Neptune and Pisces, those two were kind of hanging out and they’re like, yeah, you know, it just all this like tuning into the right energy and connecting with it and

Law of attraction, man, we’re just gonna pull it all in. That’s Neptune and Pisces. Neptune and Aries is a very different thing. So now we get fogginess and questioning and this nebulousness around more of what we are taking action on. Aries is a fire sign. Aries isn’t swimming in the waters. Aries is taking action and initiating a lot of things. So now we have sort of that fogginess around

What are we gonna initiate? What are we going to move on? What are we going to take action on? So you might have found that 2026 has felt a little bit weirder around those areas of like, what am I gonna do? How are we gonna do this? And it’s almost like manifesting in some of that energetic stuff fell off the map a little bit in the coaching world, and we don’t see as many books about it necessarily.

And we started to question some of the energetic stuff. And I just want to take a pause here to to just point out we’re talking about transits, we’re talking about the movement of the planets. We are talking about our relationship to the cosmic weather. This is just long-term weather. So Neptune is a planet that transits for years, sometimes eight or nine years, for Neptune to transit a sign.

So it’s a long time. It’s a long transit for us. So these are things that we are integrating as a collective, less so than like a short term thing where it’s taking place over weeks or months. So when we have these longer term transits, the universe to me is asking us to integrate something. it’s our curriculum for that period of time.

This is what humanity is learning. This is what we are working on. So we were working on tuning in more energetically, but there was something that was we were learning what was true and what was not true about it, because Neptune can hide stuff. Now we are sort of learning what’s true and what’s not true about taking action. It is something that we are kind of working through, like fumbling around in the dark a little bit, and maybe having to find a new relationship with taking action.

So, as we start questioning some of the energetic stuff, because now we’re starting to feel like, it’s all about the action. It can kind of fool us to thinking that it’s all about these strategies and what are we going to initiate on and how are we going to do it? And feeling like we have to put all of our energy there. Because again, Neptune can kind of throw that veil over things, make things feel really important. But ultimately, we come out on the other side, kind of knowing a lot about that.

That fog lifts, and it’s like, we have clarity about that now. If we are tuned into the best of this stuff, and we’re not still caught up in questioning some of that. So if I didn’t know about the transits, and I didn’t know that Neptune lifted the veil off of that Piscean energy of like energetics and manifesting and all of this stuff, if I didn’t know about that.

I might be questioning whether it was real. And I think that that’s some of the stuff that’s happening now. Is people are questioning, do I really need this energetic stuff? Does this really work? And even things like human design. There’s sort of this feeling of like, is that really what matters? Or do I just need to figure out what strategies I need to use because things are getting crazy? Right? I actually feel like this can be a really

Wonderful time for us because what we got to see is that, or what we’re getting to see, is that we need both. And it’s it’s actually a realignment to what is real. And what is real is that the idea of pure magic without any action, that’s out. The new illusion is action, is everything, also not true.

We need the blend of these things. And I think that that’s what we are integrating over this like almost 20-year peri period that we’re going to be in. This, you know, understanding of energetics through this like watery phase that we were in before. We’ve come out of it. Now, if you can see what you really saw there is that some of it’s very, very true. But there’s also something else that’s required. And now we have to figure out how do we take action with this?

So the real lesson is how do we embody both of these things? The energetics and the action. Because let’s just explore, since we’re talking about manifesting, what is manifesting really? Like at its core. To me, manifesting is an unshakable belief, like down to your cells and your bones, that what you want is already yours.

So that’s the energetic side of it. That’s that Piscean stuff. What you want is already yours. You are already worthy. It’s already connected to you. On some other timeline, it already exists. It is that level of belief. A hundred percent. But then it is also consistent action taken in alignment with that belief. That you show up as if it’s already yours, that you show up every single day.

And move in the direction of your dreams and your vision. Most people will choose one of these things, most of the time, and then they shift and overcorrect. And that’s, I think, the whole point of me bringing up this Neptune, Pisces, Neptune, and Aries thing. I think it is an overcorrection of these things that we are looking at. We got all caught up in trying to figure out the energetics and the manifesting side of things.

And now we are all caught up in the action of things. And what what we really need is balance. Because the key element for both of these is trust. Trust that we will be met. Trust that what we connect with is really meant for us. Trust that what we want is available to us, that potential is real.

Trust that if we show up and take action, even doing scary things, that we won’t die. That we’ll be okay. That we are always supported. Because when we don’t have trust, ultimately underneath that is a feeling of being deeply unsupported. And a lot of people don’t feel that way. A lot of people, because most of the people, if you’re listening to this show, you’re probably looking to take your life from good to great. Not from, you know.

desperate to okay, right? You’ve got a big vision. But what keeps us from doing that is really trusting that it’s available to us. And when we don’t trust that it’s available to us, when we don’t really believe that the vision is possible, that’s why I don’t say unshakable belief like in your mind, unshakable belief in your cells And when I say your cells, what we’re really talking about is your nervous system.

Believing in your energy that what you want is already yours. And that takes practice. And what’s practice aligned with action. We have to take action in alignment with that belief. And we have to take action to practice believing it over and over and over again. And then we have to move whatever is in the way of us believing that out.

So any feelings of unworthiness, any feelings of being not grounded or like we have to do it all ourselves, and it can only be overworking that gets us these things. These are all beliefs that you will carry in your energy that will keep you from taking action in alignment with those dreams or energetically connecting with it. One or the other, or sometimes both.

You are the greatest obstacle in your business. You are. Either inwardly, your unconscious is running your business and you have no idea, and you have beliefs that are attracting what you do not want versus what you do want. Or that unconscious is causing you to not take action because you have beliefs that tell you that taking action is not safe.

Taking that particular type of action is not safe. So you do not trust. You do not trust that the action is safe. You do not trust that the vision is possible for you. So, how does human design help with all of this? What is its role? So, human design to me helps you trust in yourself, in your process.

Because when we have trust in circumstances, so we trust that money will come when money is coming, and we don’t trust that it will come when money is not coming. That’s circumstantial power. That is having trust in circumstances and not in yourself and not in your vision. Human design helps you trust yourself, it helps you trust your process, and it helps you see where deconditioning is necessary. It helps you find your patterns.

That’s why I always say human design is not the treasure. Human design is the map. Human design tells you this is what healthy looks like for this. This is what unhealthy looks like for this. This is what a nice, clean, open center looks like. Here is what a conditioned version of that same thing looks like. Here’s what the shadow is of that gate. Here’s what the gift is of that gate. We finally have a point of reference for the things that we are.

That we need to learn how to operate in alignment, and we have a point of reference for the things that we are receptive in, that we may be hijacked by other people or by the program or by other people’s energy or by beliefs that we’ve adopted somewhere along the line. Where are we more susceptible to those things?

So human design gives us this mechanism to be in relationship to ourselves, which no other system does. Because this is based on your nature, not on your behavior. If we’re matching things with our behavior, so if we match ourselves with something like a disc profile or strengths finder or something like that, those are really designed, they’re based off of questions that we answer. They are subjective.

So if we’re the answer of the question and then the result that we get from that test is based on those answers, then it’s gonna call out some of our behavior. but it’s going to probably help us be in alignment with the way we’ve always behaved and not with the way that we want to behave in alignment with that vision that we have for ourselves. And I’m not saying that those do those tools aren’t useful. They are useful. And if you find value in them, please.

Please use them. But I think human design offers a unique perspective and astrology as well, because they are based on your nature. It’s based on who you are before you lived any of your life. You were born when you took your first breath. This was a chart that defined you in some way, spoke to your energetic imprinting. The things that were influencing you.

Before you knew that influence was even a thing. And it helps us to understand: this is why this is hard. It doesn’t mean it’s not for me. It means that this is an area of development for me. this is a shadow. I do that a lot. Maybe I’ll work on this piece. When we do this and when we decondition, because I think it’s important to talk about the deconditioning process and its role in human design and its role in manifesting.

So the deconditioning process, and by the way, we have a brand new deconditioning guide, which combines human design as well as some of the things that we’re talking about in here. How do we decondition? How do we shift our energy? How do we start to create safety in our body by working through some of our beliefs? All of that is in the deconditioning guide. All you have to do to get it is DM me the word decondition on Instagram. I’m at Nicole Laino official.

Or go to Nicolelaino.com forward slash decondition and you can download it there from the website. If you’ve downloaded it before, please know this is brand new. We updated it. The last one was like four pages. This one’s like 23 pages. It is really comprehensive. There’s so much that to go into, there’s ways to interact with your chart in it. It’s really, really cool. So please check that out if this topic interests you at all. So

What I was saying about deconditioning and its role in human design and its role in manifesting is deconditioning to me is emotional work. It is recognizing our patterns and noticing and starting to work on the areas where we are protecting ourselves, where we are keeping the world from getting in because we feel like there is not safety there. The way that

manifesting work so the way that energetic alignment works is if I think about something that I want, if I have a big vision and I want to make a million dollars a year, so say that’s just a round number. I want to do a million dollars a year, I want a million dollar business. It’s a very common goal for people. Okay? Say I want to do that and I’m affirming I have a million dollar business, I’m a millionaire, I’m a millionaire business owner, and I’m saying all of those things. But in my energy, there’s something in me that says that’s not true.

You don’t have a million dollars. You’re broke. You have bills. Like that’s what comes up, right? That’s a trigger. That is something that is triggering in you the goal you have, the vision you have, that big thing that you are trying to create in your life or energetically connect to, your energy is going to cut that off because it’s going to say, That’s not true. That’s not possible for you. You’re way too far away from that to make that happen.

How would you do that? You have to dig into that and you have to energetically and emotionally release that, that fear that says that you are not enough, that you could not possibly do this. That is an emotional connection that we have. And we think that we affirm something, we think that if we say it, we think that if we believe it enough, but belief isn’t from a mindset thing.

I go through this with clients all the time where they’ll tell me I don’t believe that. Like I believe that I’m worthy. And I’m like, I know you consciously do. And I can say this from my own life. I don’t walk around feeling like somebody that people don’t like. I don’t walk around lacking confidence. In fact, I walk around quite a bit of it in in most

In most environments, I feel very worthy. I feel really, really good about myself. I’ve created a lot. I’ve done a lot, and I actually like me. However, one of my greatest challenges has been overcoming a fundamental feeling in me that is not rational at all. It does not align with my true beliefs about myself intellectually.

But it’s not about intellectual knowing. Energy does not care about that. Manifesting does not care about that. And your action doesn’t either, because I’ll show you how these two things tie together. So I believed that I have a fundamental problem that people do not like me. People don’t like me. Now, when I say that to people, like I would say it to my best friend, and she’d be like, Do you really believe that? And I’m like, I don’t, but I do.

Like it’s so deep within me that like when I say it, it feels ridiculous because I know people like me. I have lots of friends. I have probably more friends than I can handle in a lot of ways. I have people who care about me. I have a lot of love in my life. it’s not rational at all, but

If I’m being honest, and this is what real growth requires. And as an entrepreneur, I have to look at this stuff because it affects my performance. It is affects how I behave. It affects how I show up. So while I will show up and I can talk to everybody at in the crowd, I can be very impressive with what I know, hold my own in conversation, great.

But the minute I go to ask for something, the minute I need to say that I am worthy of the opportunity.

The action won’t always be there. Very hard for me. And I needed to work through a lot of that energetic stuff. And I did. I worked through, I mean, this was my work for years, feeling unlovable.

It came from childhood. It came from relationships very, very early on. 48-year-old Nicole does not really believe that people don’t like her and that she’s unlovable. But seven-year-old Nicole maybe still does on some level. She’s better. We’ve talked a lot. And we’ve worked through this stuff a lot.

And now it isn’t about me journaling anymore, it isn’t about me tapping anymore, although I do all of those things. Because I want to be very conscious of the unconscious. Because that’s how we change. That’s how we start to attract what we really want. And we manifest it. Because remember, manifesting unshakable belief that what you want is already yours, consistent action in alignment with that belief. So the action that I have to take is putting myself out there. The action that I have to take is

connecting with those people and being outwardly worthy. If we don’t ask, we don’t get. So I could do the energetic work all I want, but if I’m not asking still, well then I’m probably not gonna see the change.

human design reminds me how I can trust myself that the things that I really do love about myself are real, to deepen those connections, to know how I take action, to not sit on my impulses. As a manifesting generator, I have to take action when I’m in response. I have to actually move on it.

So if I sit on an impulse, if I actually sit back and I’m like, I really want to do this right now, but I come up with some excuse to do something else that I have to look at. So now I’m trusting myself and my process. I’m like, I am not in alignment with my process right now, what’s going on? So again, using it as a map. I’m a five-one. Recognizing that I will not be for everyone, recognizing that as a five, I will trigger people.

This has been the biggest growth edge for me in my coaching business. Cause as a coach, I have to hold a very specific space as a five. I have to be very, very willing to be the mirror for people. And that requires me to sit in their projections sometimes and not take them personally.

That’s how I am of service. If I were only trusting in myself, if I didn’t have human design, I might get into my head about what this means about me, or I wouldn’t be able to hold that projection because I would take it so personally that the client was saying those things, or looking at our relationship a certain way, or looking at how I hold the mirror a certain way. And they wouldn’t get the benefit.

And I would also maybe, and I’ve done this. This is why I’m talking about the work. I did this. I was not energetically open to more clients. All I did was have the laundry list of types of clients I wouldn’t take anymore. I would have that list. And that list just kept getting longer. And then when I did the five work, I looked at it, I’m like, it’s it’s not actually them.

It’s me. I have to show up differently with these clients. I have to hold a different space and I have to hold a different energy. That required so much work on all the things that I was taking personally, that I was letting hold me back from being open to new clients.

Human design is the greatest mirror that you will ever have. And it’s so unbiased that it allows you to truly see your conditioning from a place of compassion and not of criticism of yourself. You know, am I saying curiosity over criticism? It’s so easy to be curious about your human design chart. That’s what’s so cool about it.

It’s such a fun little puzzle to try to put together. As long as you don’t get caught up in thinking that f figuring out how all the pieces of the fu puzzle fit together is the end. It isn’t. It’s actually following the process that your human design gives you.

It’s actually trusting in yourself. So we trust in our gifts, that they aren’t bullshit, that they aren’t figments of our imagination. We trust in our bigness like I’m a manifesting generator with a lot of defined energy, knowing that I’m meant to play big in these areas that the world kind of told me was safer to play small, or my conditioning made me feel that it was safer to play small.

Has allowed me to step in the direction of living big in those places again. And all the areas where if you have a really undefined chart, we have a lot of white space. Recognizing that you’re gonna have a very different way of relating to the world and that you are not crazy. Because remember, we’re talking about the conditioning, the energetic state, your energetic state, if

You believe something is wrong with you, which I think is what a lot of projectors go through. I think a lot of reflectors go through this too. Because you’re different manifestors too, but I don’t see this particular problem as much with them. But there is just this sense that because you’re different, that there’s something wrong with you, that you should be like everybody else. That’s not the case. So I think that it’s a huge

lift.

We can do a lot of the stuff that we would have to do energetic work on before. And just knowing some of this stuff can be incredibly freeing for these people to know there’s nothing wrong with me. It can lift a good 20, 30% of that weight off. And then you still have to do the work to go into your specific issues around these things. What’s really holding you back? What is causing you to not believe that this is possible for you?

So, like a projector. Like it doesn’t mean that once you know that you’re a projector, that you’re going to automatically say, like, yeah, I can just lean back and I don’t have to work really hard and I can just really feel like me giving 30% of what every other everyone else gives is like a hundred percent of what those other people give. Like that’s how good I am. That can take some

excavating to really believe that on an energetic level, to get it out of the mental space. Most people are living in the mental space of this stuff. yeah, I know that already. Cool. Are you doing it? Are you really living in alignment with it? Or is everything in your behavior saying that you know it, but it’s not true?

Projectors have to go through a very specific process a lot of times of undoing and unbelieving all of those ways that they were made to feel inferior to other people because they were different, because they work differently. And when they have a belief that they have to work as hard as the generators, that unconscious belief that they have, so even though they intellectually know that that’s not their way.

But the unconscious belief is I have to keep up and I know I can’t keep up, so therefore I can’t succeed. That is how an internal belief changes your external results because those people start to give up.

They start to act in accordance with the belief that it’s not possible for them, that they will either have to overwork or under-succeed. So they sometimes opt out or they go back to overworking. This is how the internal game is determining the game you play externally.

Okay? So I hope you’re seeing this. How manifesting really works, why we feel the way we do about it, why it feels different this year, probably than the last several years, and human design’s role in helping you really build trust because it does all come down to trust. True, energetic down to your cells, your bones kind of trust. And if you want to go on this journey of building trust in your body, building trust in your human design.

Starting to create consistent action in alignment with the vision that you have for yourself. The Human Design Authority Lab is our membership. I totally love this space. It is a space where you can get a lot of human design resources. We do workshops every month. There’s a QA with me every single month. There’s so much opportunity in there. We also do co-working sessions inside that. And it is for a fraction of the cost of what all of my other offers are. So

Please go check that out. Just DM me the word lab on Instagram or go to Nicole Laino.com forward slash lab and you can get the details there. And if you’d like the deconditioning guide, remember it’s just decondition on Instagram, DM it to me, or go to Nicole Laino.com forward slash decondition and you can grab it right off the website. We’ll have it all linked up in the show notes for you, of course. Thank you so much for being here. I appreciate you. And remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakable human.

So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design. We’ll see you next time.