Hello, and welcome to the limitless entrepreneur podcast everyone. I’m your host, Nicole Laino. We are here with one of our little shorty episodes. on a Monday morning, I’m excited to deliver this to you, we’re going to talk today about deconditioning. This is such a key factor in human design. This is the part that that everybody sort of glosses over. We talk about it, we talk about it really high level, we don’t really get into it. And today we’re going to talk about specifically about deconditioning by type. And I’m going to give you a key question for each human design type that will help you start to unravel the conditioning around just that bigger category of your type. And I’m going to give you five types. I’m not going to lump generators and manifesting generators into one. But But manifesting generators, you could also take ask yourself the question that you asked that I’m asking the generators as well.

So I’m going to run through this, and I’ll give some color behind each one. But I’m going to give you one question for each one, we try to keep these episodes super short. So I will make this very succinct for you. So we’re gonna jump right into it. generators, generators, the question for you is, where were you told that you couldn’t be successful, doing what you loved. This is a key conditioning element for generators and just the sacral family were meant to be lit up. But where we where we start going on the path of the not self is thinking that we have to do things because we should, we have to do things because they make sense. And the truth is that your sacral is going to the best places that your sacral is going to lead you to are not going to make sense. And that’s where the magic is. So a big conditioning element is that we were told that you can’t be successful doing what you love. So we think we have to do what we’re what makes sense. And then we stop listening, and we start reasoning. And that’s the big, Wrong Turn on the path of life.

So So generators, where were you told you couldn’t be successful? Doing what you loved, and manage? And you can ask yourself that question as well, because it applies to both manifesting generators, manage ends, where were you shamed for being multi passionate, or labeled flaky? Where are you shamed? For being multi passionate? Or where were you labeled flaky? This is really like this, think about how this comes up. Right? You never stick to anything? Why are you always going from one thing to the other? Oh, there she goes again, off on another wild goose chase, and another pipe dream. Another thing she’s doing? That can be there’s a lot of shame that can come behind it. Because the the the subtext of that is like there’s something wrong with you. She’s weird. Up there she goes, again, being weird, being unreliable, being flaky.

And while we can shrug that stuff off, I want you to pay attention to does that hurt? Are you triggered by it? Now, if someone were to call you that? Would and by triggered? I mean? How do you how do you react when you’re triggered? Well, we can get really defensive. We can start you know, we can get pissed off we can we can blame the other, we can get judgmental about the other person that’s calling us that or that said that about us? Or we could change our behavior to conform to what they’re saying to be more liked by them? Or to be what is more desirable that through the parameters that other people have laid out? What would make me more desirable to these people? So So where are you triggered by that? Or have you started to live your life where you’ve accepted that you’re flaky? I’m just like, Yeah, I’m just this, I’m just that.

I can remember being called that I can certainly remember that. Because I didn’t want to do one thing. And that was correct for me. And when we start we start getting pulled off our track by listening and acting on that criticism that might not always come, like in the form of like outward criticism. People do it like joking. And they might say that they mean that lovingly. But we don’t necessarily take it that way. Because it hurts because they’re telling us the truth, that we don’t stick to things that we that we’re often doing lots of different things. What they’re doing is they’re saying that that’s wrong, that’s not okay. Or it would be better if you would stick to things if you would just do one thing. And and that’s not where our magic lies. That’s not how we access it. And so where have you been pulled down that path maybe of conforming or trying to be liked by everybody of trying to do it their way of trying to be accepted?

We’re not meant to do that we’re meant to do what feels good to us. And what feels good to us is doing like six different things at once. There is the way to do that, in a way that doesn’t feel insane. Because I’ve been on both sides of that I’ve been very clear and grounded in my multi passionate pneus. And I have been manic in my multi passionate pneus. And we don’t want to be in the manic state. And that comes from the deconditioning journey. And that comes from a lot of the healing work that goes on that goes on certainly my limitless entrepreneur program. That’s a big focus of what we do. And you know that that’s kind of the foundation of what we do, that we’re always looking for that stuff. But it’s also just just Living by Design and feeling really empowered in it. And then suddenly, you get very clear, just things just get, the chaos just sort of goes away. And you just feel grounded, and you feel really rooted in yourself.

I’m gonna take a pause here. And I’m also going to let you know that that we do have a deconditioning guide that we just released. So we’re giving you the questions by type that I’m going to give you. In our guide, we go through the themes of each of the centers. So we’re talking about typing this episode, in the guide, we go through it by center, and we go through it and how you can look at your particular design, you can look at your chart and you can follow the guide and see where those voices come up. We have some cool questions for you. So just to get you started, it’s a free guide. If you go to Nicole laino.me, forward slash decondition. And it’s just D and then condition like you would spell condition all one word, Nicole laino.me, forward slash decondition. And you can download that guide.

Okay, now manifester is your next, our manifest errs. The question for you is where were you told to follow the pack? Or that blazing your own trail or doing it your way? was inconsiderate? Not okay? was just wrong? Where are you punished for it? Where was your pioneering spirit may be crushed. Or you made to feel like you were a problem. Because you were running rogue a lot. And for you this is this is where you start to squash your magic because you’re not you’re not you’re not going to hear or respect the downloads that you get the things that the urge is that you get to move on, which is where you create magic for everybody else. Because that’s what human design is, when you’re doing what’s in alignment for you. You are the ripple effect is that you’re creating opportunity for everybody else around you to be who they are. And if they’re operating correctly, then there’s opportunity created for everybody by us living correctly.

So for manifest errs, you’re you’re you’re not only hurting yourself, you’re hurting the others around you because you’re not, you’re not initiating on the things that are correct that that could initiate other people around you. Right. So you’re not creating those opportunities. You’re not You’re not, you’re not casting the vision for others to attach to who needs something to attach to? Because we don’t initiate on our own. So where were you told that following the pack was better? That maybe you should just do it like everybody else? Why do you have to be so difficult? Why do you have to be so headstrong? Why do you always have to go your own way? And this can even go back to childhood. You’re kind of just taking the lens you just taking taking this question and you’re looking back through your life and saying like, where did this happen? And this is something you take out your notebook and journal on some of these things. You probably have lots of instances where these came up and then you can dig into how they make you feel. projectors, where were you shamed for being lazy? This is a big one.

And I am guilty of doing this to my husband, my husband is a no motor center projector. And he’s a self projected projector. He has no motors defined in his body graph. And I’m a manifesting generator I move fast. And that poor guy I called him lazy I called him like I believe the word useless came up several times or be like you realize I’ve had like a whole day before you even get up in the morning. Now I respect that this is our process. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t have to do anything around the house. But I am far more compassionate to his need for rest, and that he functions very highly. He’s really good at what he does. And he only would he’s only great when he’s fully rested when he’s created enough space. So so he came and he never needed. He never cared what I said he was like I’m I’m good. You know, I’m resting. But where were you shamed for being lazy? Is the question for you.

reflectors, where were you told to define who you are. Were you told that you needed to know who you were? Or are you told to like, get it together? and have a plan and know where you were going and know who you were. And for reflectors, that’s probably felt really, like a lot of pressure. Because it literally could feel like I don’t know. But I obviously should know. I better figure that out. And that’s the spiral for reflectors. This is just like that, that feeling of like, well, well, if I do this, then will I be enough? If I do this than if I go here, if I, if I make this happen, or if I know this about myself, if I just know my purpose, if I just know this, and it can be all consuming? So that’s a question for reflectors, where were you told to define who you were? And how did that make you feel? So like I said, we have a free deconditioning guide for you guys at Nicole laino.me, forward slash decondition. If you want to dive deeper into your deconditioning journey, which is definitely this will get you started, this guide will take you there’s there’s so much I mean, we go through I have a whole like separate program piece of of the limitless entrepreneur where we go into deconditioning. And that is just this ongoing, deep, deep process.

So this is there’s no way that I could put it in one guide. But I wanted to get you started, I wanted to give you something to think about. And this is more about not the deep deconditioning. But this guide will get you started and like how can you start to notice the ways that you’re being pulled off course now. And you can do that by your centers. And you can you can start to look at it based on your chart, you can look at the guide that we give you. And you can see where your tendencies are. And you can start working on those things right away. And you’ll start to see shifts right there. If you’re following strategy and authority and you start digging into this, you will start to see real change. So I hope that you found this helpful, I hope that you download the guide because it’s super cool. We I really like it, I think it’s it’s a great tool. And if you’re just getting started with human design, that will that that’s a really nice piece for you to pick up.

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