Episode 358

Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody. I’m your host, Nicole Laino, and I want to talk about flow today. So I actually, I started to kind of, sometimes the way that I prepare for these episodes is I record myself into my transcriber to sort of catch whatever is swimming around in my head.

This is part of me knowing how to work with my design. I have an open head. I have an open Ajna. I have a lot of thoughts, so I do a lot of journaling. I do things to get those thoughts out of my head because it can become a bit of, it can definitely get busy up there. It can get really crowded up there and I can get confused.

It’s also my conscious son. So adding to all of that, I can get where. It can feel like, I know I have thoughts, but I don’t know what they are. So it’s so important for me to have a process for emptying the stash that’s, that’s swimming around up there. And a lot of the ways that I do that are through journaling and stuff like that.

But then I also, I take audio notes where I can speak. Why do I do that? Well, I have a defined throat and I have a motor to the throat. I indirectly, I have a motor to the throat. I’m a manifesting generator, so I can speak out my thoughts so much more easily a lot of times than I can write them. And I don’t limit myself to how I use these tools, which one I’m gonna use when I really follow intuition as to into where I need it to go.

What do I need to do? What tool do I need now? I used to be very rigid and I did not have flow and I fought with myself and I fought to create results and I fought to find balance and I did not necessarily feel at home in my body, honestly, because I don’t think that I was in my body. I think that I was in my head most of the time, which is where I think most people are.

I’ve been talking to so many people, my calendar has been completely booked, talking to people during, we just wrapped up the Authority Accelerator Masterclass. First of all, thank you to everybody who came, everybody who showed up, everybody who watched a replay, everybody who said they loved something or shared an insight or something in our Telegram chat, which was bonkers.

So, so active and so much great stuff is being shared in there. So thank you. If you participated at all in any way in that. But I was talking to so many people and what I do find is that most of us are caught in our head or in the clouds, which really either one of those means, so you’re either, you are looking to a celestial event or cosmic force for every answer in your life and you’re actively searching for it.

That, or you’re caught in your head trying to figure out what am I going to do, how am I going to get it done, what’s it going to be, trying to really attach to strategies and, very like 3D sort of, plans that you can lay out for yourself. And there’s a bit of white knuckling that, and there’s a lot of questioning going on in the head.

And either one of these both result in you not being in flow. Which is really what we’re going to talk about today. I’m going to break it down into the five human design types and how they find flow, but you’re not finding flow. You are fighting with yourself. And really that’s coming from, you’re not in your body.

And I know that because I was not in my body for like my life. My, acting teacher used to say things to me where he’d say, you know, you’re not in your body right now. And I’m like, okay. How do I get in my body? Like that was the question. And that’s like the, it’s, it’s such a difficult thing because asking yourself, how do I get into my body is a heady thing.

It’s not a body thing. So how do we do that? And that’s to me where human design came in and rocked my world was because it got me in my body. Cause it got me out of my head because it took the power away from my brain, which was so in charge of everything. And it messed up probably everything I consciously went for in my life.

It screwed up on some level because I could not allow and I couldn’t really be present in it. and I say, this is somebody who’s had a lot of success in their life. I am not somebody who, like, struggled through life and never had any success. No, I’ve had lots of success in lots of ways. And I’ve had other things that I have gone after and not achieved.

And I knew totally that it’s like, this is me. I’m in my way here and I am, something internal in me is keeping me from being able to enjoy what I am going after. Like, I know I’m in my own way. And that’s the not in your body part. And finding, getting in your body, starts with getting out of your head.

And as I was talking with people and just sort of, I’ve just been swimming in all of these experiences that I’ve had with other people over the last couple of weeks. and when I look at my clients inside business by design who have been with me for a long time, I had one client come into Austin.

So we had lunch together. It was so wonderful to see her. And I’ve had interactions with all of like, I’m, I’m always intimately involved with all of them and the people who’ve been with me for a long time. Some of them did testimonials during the Authority Accelerator. And the most gratifying thing to me is I watched them take the power away from their mind and they’re finding their flow and what that does.

And this is what it means to have somebody who is, who’s been down the journey, at least that you want to go on. If you’re looking to let go, find somebody who has learned to let go. So that they can tell you what the road ahead looks like, you know, you are driving down a road that’s dark. So the answer is to find somebody who’s been down that road before and has headlights and who can illuminate that way for you.

So to see these people let go of the mind game, I know what’s ahead for them. It just gets easier and easier and they get into allowing. And then that’s where your intuition kicks in and that’s where you go to sleep and you wake up with answers and that’s where your energy just carries you into the next thing.

So what I want to do is I want to break down, I’m going to talk about flow for each of the human design types. Um, honestly, like I said, his started with me doing a voice memo to myself and it was so good and it was so flowing. I was like, screw it. I’m just going to record. Very Manny Jen, by the way. And we’re going to talk about that because I want to, I don’t have any notes.

I don’t have anything. I’m just trusting that this is all flowing through at the moment. So you’re going to experience that, okay? So here we go. I’m going to, break it down by human design type and we’re going to just talk about flow and I’m just going to give you a free flowing reflection on what I’ve seen working with every single one of the types and how you find flow, okay?

Sound good? Fabulous. Let’s dive in. I’m going to start with the generators and the manifesting generators and I’m going to talk about them together and then I’m going to break it apart, you know, cause there’s so much that’s the same. I don’t want to repeat myself, but it starts with them because that’s where my, notes were starting was really talking about, you know, and, and exploring this idea of, generators and manifesting generators, sacral beings.

You are, we are, since I am a mani gen. We are designed to have sustainable energy. we’re designed to do, this is stuff we all know, right? Do what lights you up and it will carry you. Now, finding your flow as a generator, a manifesting generator, it doesn’t mean you’re doing all the time. And it doesn’t mean you don’t get tired and it doesn’t mean that you should work yourself in the ground and it doesn’t mean that you are somebody’s slave to do all of the work while somebody else, like a projector, sits by and just says like, nope, over that way a little bit more, a little to the left.

That’s not your role either. The key is that you love building what you build. And when you are in the act of doing something that feels good, that feels right, And the more right it feels, the more energy you will generate for the thing. and then you will stop. So it isn’t about never getting tired.

It isn’t about never needing rest. The key is, is that if you’re not in your head thinking about, should I be resting now, should I be working now? Is this a response, which is where I see everybody start. Is this a response? Should I go on this? You’re still in your head. If you’re asking that question. Okay, I want you to just, I’m going to tough love you here a little bit.

You are still absolutely a hundred percent in your mind. If you are asking that question, is that a response? And you’re looking for me to tell you whether it is. And cause that is not, I’m not your authority. You are, and if you are following, and I’m going to talk about my process. Cause I’ve been in a lot of flow.

These last few weeks have been pretty amazing. And I’m in flow right now, but I’ve also been tired. So let’s talk about how that works for generators and manifesting generators. And I’m a manigen. So I have a lot of plates spinning in the air. And as long as I have a comfortable amount of plates, as long as I’m not distracting myself with too many things, then I will have energy for them all.

And it will actually, each one will kind of feed me a little bit more. Generators, you’re probably not going to enjoy too many things spinning, that will probably confuse you and make you kind of contract or retract a little bit, but Because I’m not in my head these last few weeks, so here’s what happens.

You’re in flow, you’re doing the thing, and more and more energy is generated for the thing that you’re doing. So I had the Authority Accelerator Masterclass going on. I had my clients to attend to. I had content that I was writing. I had all of these things where I was sort of shifting gears throughout the week.

I had the podcast to do. I had all these things. And there were some times where I was tired. And there were sometimes where I, I’m going to be honest, I had to push through because there were just things that needed to get done and generators, Manny Gens, we are in the moment people. It can be really hard sometimes for us to plan and have the energy to do the thing we planned for.

It’s not how it works. It’s why I didn’t record this episode. I’m late with this episode. I was working it and trying to get notes out, but the, I felt my sacral turn on and I was like, screw it. We’re just going to go record this. That’s how it works. And sometimes that’s not on our time. It’s on Sacral time.

So we have to learn to work with that. And that can be really frustrating in the beginning because sometimes we’re like, I got to get it done. I got to get it done. And Sacral is just like, yeah, nah, not happening. I’m not, it’s not really there yet for me. But when you are in the energy of the thing that you are, that’s really turning you on.

The ideas come, the things come. This is where momentum comes from. But, if you’re really not in your head, and if you are really listening to your body, you know when to go and you know when to stop. You’re not really questioning that. Now, time constraints for me over the last few weeks had me Doing more when I was like, I’m really tired and I really want to rest right now.

But I was like, I got it. I really have to get this done. And I added more work on, there were things that I definitely, you know, made trouble for myself with. It wasn’t more than I could handle, but it was definitely my sacral was saying no. And I was saying one more, I got to get it out. I got to get it done.

Cause I was on deadlines. This happens sometimes. But what did that result in? It resulted in me on, at the end, on Friday after the last official masterclass session was over, I had sales calls book back to back to back for like the rest of that day. And then I think the last one was like at three o’clock or something.

And it was like somebody unplugged me. Like I felt my sacral go off. We’re done. That’s a, I didn’t say I need to rest now. I wonder if it’s time to rest. I wonder one more thing. I felt the motor turn off almost instantly and I felt me lose that sustainable energy. I drained the battery a little bit and it let me know.

And I did not question it and I went to bed and I did all these things, you know, try to rest, but then I had another week of, two more masterclass sessions, you know, the, bonus session and a Q and a, and then I had sales calls and then I have my group call. I have a lot of stuff going on. I had a reading that week and so there was so much going on and I, kind of had to probably put myself to work before I was ready to, but I know.

What I need now, here’s the other thing now in my mind, it might be, my mind might say, Oh, we got to clear out a bunch of space. Cause it’s going to take days for us to recuperate from this. We’re really tired. No generators. We don’t work like that. Yes, you will rest when the sacral says rest, but you don’t know how long that rest is going to take.

I went to bed last night. I slept like 10 hours last night. I gave my body rest. I have been giving my body rest all week, but I did feel like I was not really fully recharged. But this is where generators are different than the non sacrals, and we’re going to get to you guys in just a moment, as I wrap up mani gens and gens here.

But if you take rest as a gen or mani gen, this is what’s different about us. You recharge that battery, you’re ready to go again. You’re ready to go again. Now, I don’t know, when I go to bed tonight, there might be a like, okay, we’re done now again, we’re done. And that might happen at seven o’clock tonight.

And I might have to just really recharge and restore myself. But, next day, I might be ready to go. Whereas I see some gens and many gens in my world still will come to me and be like, you know, I feel like I should be resting, I feel like I should, no, it’s not a thought. But what’s your body telling you? If you are really following flow, because that’s what we’re talking about here, finding your flow with your type.

There’s so much more to flow of the detail, you know, we can get into variables and centers and all of this other stuff in the chart. We’re not going to go that deep. We’re just going to talk about, we’re going to keep it at the type level, but your energy type tells you so much. So finding my flow. As a manifesting generator, I have to see what life is giving me, I’m getting responses, it’s saying, my body is saying yes, my body is saying no, I’m following all of those things, and then I don’t have to ever ask myself, is it time to rest or is it time to go?

My sacral chooses. And that’s where I have other things that I’m going to do because I have been so in alignment with the things I have been doing, I have been so lit up by the work that I’m doing, I have other ideas that have come from that. I am so ready to go with those. I am so ready. Then my challenge just becomes like, am I carving out enough time to get it done?

Is my calendar not so jammed that I can’t do the things that are exciting for me? I’m in a creative mode at the moment. Now that’s, the thing. We sometimes generate as manifesting generators. We’re so scheduled out. We’re so planned. We have so many other things that are going, we think we’re tired or we think we’re frustrated and it’s like, no, you didn’t create space for the thing that really lit you up.

That’s why you don’t feel great. So we have to start listening to something other than our thoughts and our mind. We have to start saying, what do I feel? Your feelings will tell you everything, right? Now I want to talk about, let’s talk about manifestors. So manifestors, um, this is the thing with manifestors too.

So manifestors, finding your flow has to be in those moments of a down time. In those moments of a downtime, again, not going to your head. I see manifestors do this a lot. Uh, particularly if you have definition in your head, you’re going to do this a lot, where it’s going to be, you’re going to want to figure it out.

You are going to want to know when the next urge is coming. You’re going to want to know when the next thing is coming. And the truth is, you will not know. And what flow is, about working with your energy. It’s about not forcing anything. And so the first step has to be For manifestors, what you have to trust is, is that have to see what the thought is.

First of all, most of the time the thought is, I’m not doing anything. I’m not doing anything. I’m so frustrated by not doing anything. I have, I want to make an impact. I’m worried it won’t happen. It’s taking too long. What if I never create the thing I meant to create? I think at the core. Of every manifester is just like, what if I don’t really get to do the thing that I meant to do?

Like, what if I never get that thing out? there’s that kind of really unconscious belief and motivation that is so beautiful. That’s driving you to not truly relax and rest in the relaxing and the resting. And really what relaxing and resting can mean. is you’re doing things, you’re just not doing the thing and you are giving yourself space and you are giving yourself, and I mean that as physical space from other people, you’re not apologizing for being who you are, which is somebody who doesn’t need people the way that other people need people, who needs more space in order to become the channel that you’re meant to be.

You’re waiting for something incredible to drop in that’s going to drive you to action. You don’t have to create the spark. The spark is channeled through you. And I know that sounds cosmic, especially if you’re just getting used to this work, and you’re just being introduced to human design and all this work. 

It might be like, uh, channeled? But you are a direct channel. It’s not like for generators, we have to pay attention to what we’re responding to because that’s how the universe communicates with us. It’s through life. It’s through the things that it puts in our path that we go yes and no to. If we are listening, we will find our flow through that.

We’ll figure out what we want to build. Projectors have their ways through invitations that finding their way. You’re the only one that doesn’t have something to do with this world. just comes through you. You are a channel, so you have to honor that. And by honoring that, it’s about creating space.

And the first way that we create space is to stop the mind chatter saying, when’s the thing going to come? When’s the thing going to come? When’s it going to be there? When’s it going to go? I got to get moving now. What you got to trust is that all of that space, it doesn’t matter. You’re sort of like, I think, do you remember like the old Bugs Bunny cartoons where, you know, the Bugs Bunny would be sitting at the starting gate and then the turtle would start to go?

And I know that this is a tortoise and the hare thing where the tortoise ultimately wins. However, what I’m talking about here is that you’re Bugs Bunny sitting there being like, I’m so much faster than everybody in this race. I don’t need to run the whole time. I can let them get three quarters of the way there and then I will just lap them when I decide it’s time.

When it’s right for me. It’s so much of it is about timing. So much is about creating the space for the spark to be lit. And when it is, you know, you don’t question it, you don’t have to. You’ll know because it will pull you on a path. Where most manifesters are is over analyzing and over planning and trying to figure it out where you don’t have enough space for that thing to really drop in for you.

A lot of manifesters don’t know what it feels like really to be taken. on the ride that is the urge to feel what that feels like as a manny gen, I get little taste of that where, when the creative thing drops in, it feels like that’s sort of where I feel like I am in this very moment is that there are so many things that I am so like, feel like I’ve been waiting forever for them to drop in.

And I don’t know exactly where they’re leading, but they, it feels like I could not, not do these things. It would be impossible for me to not see this through and to not do this thing. I feel called to create this stuff. And that’s what manifestors often don’t trust enough, is that that is coming for you.

And if it’s not coming, it’s usually because you are too distracted with other stuff. And And sometimes that is distracted with your own thoughts of wondering when the thing is going to come. Because on some level all manifestors know, you know you’re meant for something big, you know that you have a strong calling, you have felt the connection with something, you know, you don’t need people, all of that, you know it, but there’s so much conditioning a lot of times of you not really being a manifestor.

That’s keeping you from being an aligned manifestor in their flow. An aligned manifestor in their flow is really comfortable leaning back and just being like, I’m going to go when I go. And I am, pulling it all in right now. Every moment is, full for you, but you have to allow it to be. And this is what flow is.

It’s this feeling like we don’t have to create anything when we’re in alignment. We are open to answers and pathways to be, laid out for us that we could not have planned for. This is what it means to have your intuition come online. But most of us are so busy thinking that our intuition can’t get a word in edgewise.

So finding flow for a manifester is about really being comfortable leaning back in the moments of, uh, in between one creative urge and the next. And when you’re starting this journey, what that looks like is learning to be really a manifester, really learning to decondition so that you can be that channel.

And the manifestors I’ve worked with, like, it’s so like clockwork. You all are so assertive that once you start going down that path, things happen for you so quickly because you’re so powerful. Most of you are dimming your power. Most of you are throttling yourself in this world because somewhere along the line you were taught to hold back because it wasn’t safe to be a hundred percent of who you were.

Made people uncomfortable. You probably make people uncomfortable. So learning to sit back and say, it’s not my responsibility how I make anybody feel. I’m just here to be this. Finding your flow is about being yourself. And every single type has a different way of being themselves. Okay. So that’s manifestors.

Projectors. Your way is going to be through prioritizing your health, your physical wellbeing, your cleanliness of your energy. You have to let go. Uh, first of all, you have to recognize how much of you. has probably been hijacked by somebody else’s energy already. And if you aren’t properly deconditioning daily, like daily, if you aren’t cleansing your energy by being alone, if you aren’t sleeping alone, And I know this is hard.

my husband’s a projector, talked about that a million times on the show. He has taken to sleeping in our guest room a lot of nights, not because there’s anything wrong in our marriage. Nope, not at all. And sometimes he starts out in our bed and then he goes into the other room. And I’ve told him a million times.

I’m like, if that’s where you need to be, I get it. I’m a lot. And what’s really happening when you’re a projector sleeping next to us, particularly if you sleep next to a sacral. is you are being charged up all night by that person’s energy. It’s not their fault. It’s not your fault. It’s just the way the energy dynamics work.

what you do is you wake up not as you, as them. You wake up already having to get rid of stuff. So that’s why you might not feel as rested. That’s why you might feel a little bit more like them than you do like yourself. But you wouldn’t know it, because you’re used to it. You are so conditioned to be that way.

Projectors, your flow, finding some play, y’all can be real serious, and you have to find some play in your life because you are meant to be playful. I know that that’s not like a typical thing that we talk about with projectors, but waiting for those invitations, a lot of projectors, you’re looking for things to tell people.

To teach people, to help people with, and they don’t want your help. And you are not finding your flow through that, you’re finding bitterness through that. You’re getting frustrated with the fact that people are not seeing you. But that’s not how they see you. And you’re burning yourself out, and you’re spending energy you do not have.

So people can tell you, I didn’t ask for that. Finding your flow as a projector is you should be focused on yourself until somebody asks you something. You should be focused on prioritizing your physical well being. That’s how you find your flow as a projector. That you don’t have to fill every moment in between all of the moments.

And if you want to fill it with something, fill it with enriching yourself. Fill it with luxuriating in the fact that you don’t have to do as much as the rest of us. Luxuriate in the fact that if you rest, you will attract more. And build an expertise. Figure out what is it that you want to be recognized for and become so damn good at that, that they cannot ignore you.

Because your energy will carry that. But you have to trust that. And most of you don’t, most of you are still playing the generator game and you are trying to do rather than trusting that if you just are enough, that people will find you and you’ll say things like, Oh, I’ve tried that. But most of the time when I look at it, it’s like, no, you tried it for like a minute, but you really weren’t cleaning your energy.

You really weren’t deconditioning yourself. You really weren’t in, I’ve got this energy. You were like, okay, they told me to wait, so I’m waiting. But I’m waiting like this, like with, my fists clenched, being like, are you going to ask me to dance? Are you going to ask me to dance? Are you going to ask me for something?

Nope. I better tell you. I had a projector. It’s funny. I get comments on YouTube. And, uh, and we have hundreds of videos up on YouTube and we get, I get comments and I always read, I read the comments. Sometimes I respond to them. Sometimes I don’t, because some of them are kind of kooky and out there.

And some of them just make me laugh. One of them was on, I did a video on the, an episode on the projection field, like years ago. That video is still up, it’s still getting hits. This is the beauty of having like evergreen stuff up there, right? I don’t have to work for this. Although this comment was not somebody I see joining my world anytime soon.

But they wrote like, I’m a 5’1 splenic projector or whatever they told me they were. And I’m also a sound engineer. And it killed me to see the mic set up incorrectly throughout this whole thing. And I was just like, that is exactly. Like the projector, like the collective eye roll when we get like a projector who wants to teach us something that we did not ask for.

And if you’re in that, it’s just, do you see how that was just like my energy just went, Oh, nobody asked you about my mic. Nobody asked you. And that’s where you have to, if you’re just leaning back and you are. If you are daring enough to be seen as being really good, believing you are so good at what you do, I promise you, you will get invitations.

They will come easily to you, but most projectors are not being seen. They’re not allowing themselves to be seen or they’re being seen in that energy. Let me tell you this, let me tell you that, and nobody really is, accepting of that. Your flow is to trust your wisdom. And to trust that you don’t have to move until the right invitation comes through for you.

And I know that can be really uncomfortable because you’re going to spend more time not doing anything than doing things. And that is your flow because projectors all complain that they have to do too much. But when we tell them to lean back, they say, I can’t. And that’s your mind telling you to do something and you’re not following your body, if you followed your body.

Your body is saying no a lot, and it’s saying no a lot more than you are answering that call. So I want to point out, you’re in and you’re ahead if you’re not listening to your body. If you aren’t listening to, and that’s the thing, you don’t have a sacral that’s going to tell you when it’s enough. You’re going to burn out.

And the more open you are as a projector, the worse that’s gonna feel when you burn out. It’s going to feel it’s almost like you’re short circuiting. It’s like, you know, like your nerves are breaking down and generators. We can feel that too. When we push ourselves too hard.

I had a day last week that felt like that, where I was like, I have to go to bed right now. And I took a nap in the middle of the day and that was just what I needed. And I felt my body breaking down and it needed it so badly. That’s what happens when projectors push themselves way too far. Now reflectors.

Reflectors, it’s similar. Reflectors, you have to, your flow is going to come from, honestly, you’re all so different, like even amongst reflectors, you guys are, no two are, I mean, none of us are the same, but I mean, reflectors, I see reflector clients who, some of them have a ton of hanging gates in and around pointing to the root.

Where they have a lot of get up and go energy, some of them, a lot of them pointing to the sacral. So when they’re around people or the transits are kind of always activating certain parts of them. Some of them have them spread out all over where it doesn’t feel as concentrated in some area. But all of you have to respect the fact that you are going to be, you’re going to probably need to be alone.

a lot of the time in order to figure out who you are, and you’re going to have to stand up for that and it might make people uncomfortable and in order to find your flow, with reflectors, what I do see is that The more you allow yourself to withdraw from everyone and you give yourself alone time.

A lot of reflectors like to live alone. That was sort of what I was going to say. Um, so they can divorce, they can, and be good with that. Where, you know, I’ve seen them sometimes where they really want to hang on to the marriage, they really want to hang on to the, relationship. and then once it’s forced from their hands and they break up for whatever reason, when they settle into doing things by themselves, living by themselves, or having autonomy over their time and over their energy, like if they want to be completely alone, they can be.

If they want to be around people, they can be. And reflectors usually want to have moments where they’re around people and then they want to be alone. And no one can tell them when that’s right. And that’s why sometimes when they don’t have an attachment, they don’t feel obligated, so it’s so easy for them to do what feels right for them.

So I’ve seen a lot of people where they settle into that alone life and they’re like, yeah, I don’t really. Want somebody coming in here looking for, like, to guide my life or to have any sort of say in what I do or where I go or how much time I spend with them. Like they get really comfortable there.

So is the answer to get divorced and to cut ties with people? No, but your flow is directly related to how much you are willing to stand up for yourself to say. I’m not doing that, I’m not going there, I need to be alone, I’m going for a girl trip, meaning me, this girl, alone, I’m renting an Airbnb by myself, in the woods, and that’s what I’m going to do.

You watch the kids. Like, that level of, I think there’s such a misconception that reflectors are, you know, just these soft, delicate creatures. No, most of the reflectors I know are pretty damn fierce. They have big, big energy. It’s just not sustainable. And quite frankly, we burn them out. If you are around a reflector and they seem tired, it’s probably you.

And they need that time. So just trusting what you feel as a reflector. Trusting, allowing yourself to be creative, you’re such creative beings and giving yourself space to move is the whole thing. I wish I had something more insightful to say for the reflectors, but the truth is, is that if you aren’t doing that, then nothing will feel like flow.

It will always feel like your energy is you’re hijacked by somebody else’s energy and you’re just sort of on their ride. And it’s so easy for you to do that. And the first wake up is learning that you’re a reflector and that’s what your energy does. And that, I see that, you know, I see people very quickly once they realize they’re a reflector, it’s like, Oh, this is why.

And they start to take a step into owning who they are. But it doesn’t mean that it necessarily for all of them stops there and they don’t realize how much of other people’s energy is pulling them in directions that’s not of their own choosing and they’re not spending enough time alone. So they’re always feeling kind of drained.

So they’re always feeling kind of disappointed. And surprise comes from being so open, which you are, that as, because like throughout the day, the moon is changing. You get all of these different connections every time you’re around different people. When you’re really open, They light different sparks within you, and you’re picking up little things from all of the people that you encounter.

And you’re getting lit up in different ways by the moon changing throughout the day. The moon cycles go so much faster than all the other planets and all the other bodies. You’re being lit up multiple times a day by different things. You’re getting all of these different connections. What a beautiful surprise that can be if you can dance with life like that, where you don’t feel like you’re in flow is because you’re not dancing, you’re doing what other people are making you do on some level.

And of course we have people in our lives, we make concessions, but you want to be making less concessions than you are standing up for yourself. You want to be standing up for yourself 80 percent of the time. And the rest of the time is they have to respect and honor the fact that you need different things than they need.

And that’s how you find your flow is to not be obligated to somebody else’s. Okay. I hope you guys liked this. This was fun for me. I appreciate you being here, making it all the way to the end of the episode. I appreciate you as always. And remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakable human.

So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design, everybody. We’ll see you next time.