Episode 359

Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody. I’m your host, Nicole Lano. And today we’re going to talk about money. It’s just you and me. We’re going to have this little chat about something that I see with people everywhere, quite honestly. Friends and family I see it with. I used to fight with this a lot myself, and I certainly see it with people who come into our program, sometimes people who have clarity calls with me.

I see this, and this is one of those things that is so simple that we tend to bypass it. We don’t really give it the attention it deserves, and it’s to our detriment. When I made this shift, and we’re going to talk about a mindset shift that’s going to shift you from chasing money. And feeling like you struggle with money to attracting more money.

This is about getting into a frequency, into an energy of receiving, into a friendly energy with money, rather than being in a repelling energy with money, which is where most people are. So, this is one of those things that’s almost too simple. that most people will not do it. That when I say it to you, you’re probably going to say those four little words that are killing your business right now, because I hear this from so many people.

And those four little words are, I already know that. Beginner’s mind is one of those things that when you can cultivate it, it doesn’t mean that you are throwing out any knowledge that you have. You are just coming with a much more open heart. And your past isn’t really causing trouble in your today.

That you are able to actually grab and take in wisdom on a new level when you come with that beginner’s mind. But most of us aren’t doing that, and usually it’s because we’re afraid. Usually because we’re afraid that it won’t work, it won’t work fast enough. Oh, I knew that! I need something new! But here’s the thing, it’s not about what you know.

It’s about what you will implement. What are you doing? So that’s the first question that I have to ask you right now, is I just want you to take some stock at this moment. And I want you to ask you, Do I have everything that I want? Are you sublimely happy? Do you have everything that you want in life?

Are you not looking for anything more? Do you feel completely and totally content and happy with where you are in all aspects of your life? Now, we’re going to talk about money, but it can be about love. It could be about relationships. It could be about different types of opportunities. Community could be about so many other things.

So just expand that if that helps you. But are you a hundred percent giving yourself like a hundred percent in every aspect of your life? If you are fantastic. First of all, Call me and tell me how you’re doing that, because I will come with my beginner’s mind and I will be open to whatever you say. But if you’re not, then there’s room here, right?

There’s room for improvement. So that first question that I have for you, though, is what do you know but aren’t doing? Now, that’s not even the thing that we’re going to talk about today, but that in and of itself is can be a life changing shift. If you just actually sat back and said, what are the things that I’m taking for granted that I know already, that they aren’t sexy or new, or you read a book and you’re like, ah, I knew that already, but you don’t actually do anything with it.

I want you to take stock of that just for a moment right here. What do you know, but aren’t doing? What do you know, but you aren’t implementing? This happens a lot. I mean, it happens in both areas. It happens with strategy. We’re trying to get a new thing. We try it. We do it. Maybe we do it halfway. We don’t really go all in on it.

And then we say that didn’t work and we moved on. That happens. Sure. But in the energetic stuff, I see this constantly, because first of all, we are all, 70 percent of the world has an open head center. So we are all consuming and taking in and taking in and taking in and always looking for that next new thing, that new idea that’s going to make us believe.

That it will change our lives because that’s really all we’re looking for. We are so addicted to that dopamine hit of the new tip, the new thing, the one thing, the secret. But we don’t actually see it through. Where we actually make it enough of a practice to actually experience the benefit of that tip, that secret, that aha.

We’re addicted to the ahas, but I don’t know about you. I can’t eat ahas, I can’t pay my bills with ahas. So I love them, but I need to actually see something tangible come from them. That’s the game I’m in. And that’s what we’re going to talk about today. So I want to ask you, what do you know but aren’t implementing?

What do you know but aren’t doing? I guarantee you there’s stuff. I guarantee you there are Instagram carousels that you saved and quote posts and things like that. You’ve liked them, you’ve commented them, you’ve said, go girl, you have saved them in some little collection in Instagram, but you haven’t actually done the work to really implement it.

And I see this a lot, and I used to do it. Guys, really, anything that I say to you on this show, for the most part, I have done. Every mistake that I call out, I can see it because I’ve done it. And I know it’s a mistake because I’m on the other side of it, and I say, Oh, actually, if you fix that, you’re gonna fix a lot.

if you can really implement that, that’s gonna move the needle. So, I never say this with arrogance. Anything I’m saying to you, I’m saying with So much understanding of being in that place, which is why I always say I’m not calling you out, I’m calling you up. This is an opportunity, right? But most people that I talk to are struggling with money in some way.

They want more than they currently have, so even if you are, I want more than I currently have, so I’m always striving for more. However, there’s an energy to people who are having trouble with it, and an energy to the people who are like, of course it’s coming, of course it’s happening. And even, and I get it, when it doesn’t seem, when the proof isn’t there yet, it can be difficult to believe.

You might be saying to yourself, it’s coming, it’s coming, I’m attracting money, I’m attracting money, I’m attracting money. I’m doing the thing, it’s coming, it’s coming, it’s coming, but deep down inside, you know, when we don’t have evidence, it can be difficult to believe, and again, I know that because I’ve been there, I’ve been in that situation where I’ve been working on the believing, but I’m not really seeing the tangible proof or results from all of that believing.

So I had to come back and ask myself a question at one point, and this was a huge mindset energetic shift for me. Which was, I had to notice, first of all, the frequency within my body around money. That I did have to look around and notice that when money came up, I’m a hider. That was my attachment style with money.

I avoided. I didn’t want to look at my bank account. I didn’t want to look at my bills. I didn’t want to look at anything that might be coming down the road. I did not want to face it. And I would hide. That’s your first clue there. If you’re not facing it head on or when you open your bank account, if you kind of flinch, if you’re scared, if you feel, pay attention to your body, pay attention to what you feel because that’s telling you something about your relationship with money.

And that relationship with money is going to seep into the ways you make money. It’s going to make you more or less effective at the things that you do. Because you’re either in the energy of what you want or you’re in the energy of what you don’t want. So let’s talk about that because this is the shift.

This shift, like I said, it’s probably going to sound so simple that you’re going to say, I’ve heard that before. And I’m going to say, I don’t care what you’ve heard. I care what you’re doing. And this is a call to be observant of what you’re doing in this way. Okay. So this is the shift that I’m calling out here.

This is the shift that’ll take you from chasing money to attracting money. This is the shift that will take you. This is the foundation of money mindset to me. This was what changed it to me. Okay, and this is paying attention to asking yourself at least am I Focusing on what I want or am I focusing on what I don’t want?

Sounds simple, right? I know but let me go a little bit further when you are focusing on the bills When you’re focusing on the debt, when you’re focusing on how scared you are about money, when you’re focusing on the clients that aren’t coming in, when you’re focusing on what other people are getting and you’re not getting, when you’re focusing on the fact that someone didn’t write you back, that you sent a link to.

With the payment link for your program, now you’re scared. When you are focusing on they didn’t write, they didn’t call, they didn’t sign up, no one’s writing, no one’s calling, no one’s clicking the links, no one’s paying. When you’re focused on that, you will get more of that. So, people might say, what do I do?

That’s the reality, it’s not coming in, and I am scared, and I do have bills to pay. And I’m saying that the game starts here. The money game starts here, because money, playing the energetic game with money, is not the same as playing the reality game with money. And if you’re playing the reality game with money where it’s all about what’s happening in the physical world, then circumstance will always rule you.

When a payment doesn’t come through for someone in my program or something, payment fails or something like that. I might have an initial like, Oh no, they have to pay, what’s gonna happen? And my mind used to go to, Well, if they don’t pay now, and what if they don’t pay next month? And then, what if they default, and what if they try to get out of their contract?

And then I lose that, and that’s my recurring revenue. That’s what I used to do. And you know what? A lot of people defaulted. A lot of people left my programs. A lot of people freaked out, And, you know, left and didn’t pay. And left me with holding the bag there, a program, or things that I put together and developed resources for, and hired people to support, and they just bailed.

Not fair. Absolutely not. And they did it for their reasons. Sure, I get it. But for me, now I don’t do that. I’m in really clean energy around that. I don’t focus on that. I immediately, now I’ll catch myself. So I’m not going to say I’m human. When it comes to her, it’s like, Oh no, like there’s a little like, Oh no, they didn’t pay.

But instead now I go to either, I think of somebody new joining and taking over that, like just coming in and I’m either adding revenue that covers that payment or I shift to seeing that person pay. How good it’ll feel when they pay. And I shift to how good it will feel to know that they were able to make it work within their own finances to pay this bill that they have to hold their obligation.

To show up, to continue to show up, I shift my energy because I don’t want the non payment. If I put my energy on the non payment, I will get more of that. I’m in the energy of it’s not working. But if I shift and I go the other way and I say, it’ll feel so good when this is paid, I’m good. I’m always supported.

And I shift to what I do want. How would it feel if somebody new came in today? Oh, wouldn’t it be great if somebody new came in? Paid, absorbed that payment, so I never, it was like I never had a failed payment, and then what if that person then pays, and then I made more money? It’s a game. Energetically, it’s a game.

And when I started to make that shift, and I definitely started out in the camp of like, if it were that easy, I’d be rich by now. But the truth was when I looked at it, yes, I had heard it before, but I absolutely was not doing it. I was focused on the debt. I was focused on the, what wasn’t happening.

I was focused on what I did not want. That was where my attention was. That was where my energy was. And that was why I continued to get that over and over and over again. I practically never have defaulted payments anymore. Anymore than like, you know, if it fails, but it gets, it passes again right away. I have a wonderful relationship with everybody in my programs, and it’s just, this is an energetic shift.

There are other things that we do strategically to support that. I do the work. I sell things. I do launches. I have this show. I sell products. I remind you of things like that I do human design readings that you could book with me right now just by DMing me the word reading on Instagram, and I’m at NicoleLenoOfficial.

I say things like that so that I support the fact that we have to meet the universe halfway. We want money? Okay, well we’ve got to make sure that we have channels. Built so that the universe can deliver us money through them. And when you start playing the energetic game with all that strategy, you start to see money actually come through those without you having to work as hard.

But like I said, we have to meet the universe halfway. We can’t just sit around and just get into the energy of what we want. Although it will be easier if you’re doing that work. They complement each other. So, can you take a moment to just say if you’re not in the greatest place with money, if you don’t feel like money is coming into your life, and you’re so focused on what isn’t working with it, Can you notice that?

Can you say, I really am focusing on what I don’t want. I do not feel supported by money. I do not feel like it’s coming to me, and I’m actively in the fear of that all the time. I remember this, I had that feeling, I remember writing in my journal, I feel dominated by money. And there was just this like a big heavy weight, and I knew that that wasn’t what it was supposed to be.

So, I did a lot of deep work around that, but the deep work was to allow me to actually have enough space to unlock some of those shadows and get out of those dark places with money where money felt so big and so dominating over me. I don’t really have a better word. It felt like that. It felt like it was suffocating me.

It felt like a heavy weight pushing me down and like I would never let it go. Get ahead of it. I would never get above it, but I had asked myself like that’s not ultimately true this is a story that feels true to me. So I did the money tappings I did that deep work. We have money programs as well You can get them on my website, but I did all of that work But doing that deeper work was to open me up So that I could be in a place that I actually could focus on what I wanted But you can start doing that now.

Maybe you don’t need all that deep work that I had to go through. Maybe you have to just make it a practice to ask yourself, am I focusing on what I want or what I don’t want right now? And when you notice that you’re focusing on what you don’t want, can you shift it to what you do want? Can you take the same situation and instead of looking at it like there’s a storm coming or like you are dominated, can you look at it through some rosier colored glasses?

I promise you, this changes things. And I promise you that if you already know it, and it’s not working for you, then please ask yourself, I guarantee you, you are probably not implementing it, not in a consistent way. And again, that’s not to call you out, that is to call you up. All of this is available to us, the energy work.

is available to all of us. So, I’m gonna leave this here. I hope that you love the episode. I hope that this shift is something that you will not just hear and have, like, a good, warm feeling and aha moment with. And actually, I hope that you will implement it in your life. Start to see real change in your life as a result of it.

Okay? So thank you so much for being here. I appreciate you. And remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakable human. So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design, everybody. We’ll see you next time.