Episode 392

Hello and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design, everybody. I’m your host, Nicole Laino, and I want to talk about evolution today. Personal evolution and business evolution. This all came from me thinking about this from my own business, just sort of witnessing what’s happening with our clients and with just people that I know within the industry and. And in my life. And I feel like I also think about the 2027 change that is coming. We’re very close to it now. You know, we are evolving as humans. We are evolving as business owners. And I see the mental process when I say I see this with people, I see these things in myself as well. So I’m always speaking from my own personal experience with this stuff too. And what I see is there can be this feeling of things need to stay the same. 

I’ve seen this with a few clients where they haven’t felt as connected to their message in a while. And there’s a fear of, well, if I shift things and this is working, what if the next thing I doesn’t work? And I understand that fear. I do get it. But this idea that we will never change, that our message will never change, that our offer will never evolve, that we will never evolve is crazy. It’s wrong. And, and. And the reason that I. I’m saying that it’s wrong is that it boxes us in. It gets us afraid of what’s next. And what I think is, you know, a lot of people, they’ll resist the change or the other. The opposite side of it is that some people will feel that everything needs to change. I feel like I’m evolving. 

I feel like things are changing now. I need to wipe the slate totally clean. I have to start from scratch and build everything from the ground up all over again, like, nothing fits anymore. And that’s not the case either. Most of the time. We don’t need to take a sledgehammer to our life to evolve. It doesn’t mean that everything has to go. I’m not saying that if things have fallen apart and you feel like I’ve been talking to a lot of people recently where, you know, what they were doing before isn’t working anymore, and now they don’t know what to do what is next for them. And I understand this feeling because those people are going into like, well, what do I do? What do I do? What do I do? 

And I feel like this is almost that argument between, you know, uber masculine, where we go into massive action mode, trying to figure everything out. What do I do? Trying a million different things, really scattering our energy a lot of places. Or we go to the ultra feminine, which is to do nothing and sometimes shut down, to hide from that action. But evolution, in my experience, requires some balance of these two principles. We have to honor the time and space that evolution requires. And human design can give us a little bit of a window into what that looks like for us. How do we create space? It tells us a little bit about our own personal process through our design, like as a manifesting generator. 

Something that I know is that manifesting generators go through periods of great growth and then they go through plateaus. They’re like these personal peaks and then leveling off. And you have to allow. I know that I have to allow that leveling off. I have to allow for that plateau in order to understand what the next growth phase will look like. Manifestors, they have to honor their rest cycle or they’re not going to get the next download because there isn’t space for it. Projectors are always creating space. You are always in a game of creating enough space for things to flow in to you. Reflectors, I mean, you’re on your own timeline, you’re on your own kind of little planet making space and being open to the world around you. Generators, you’re going to be looking for those next responses. 

But the moments in between are what create those responses. It can give us that nuance to let us know what we should trust, Help us trust ourselves in these transitional periods. Because they can be scary. Change is scary, and sitting and doing nothing is scary. So sometimes we sit in these. These two places where we resist the change, or we feel like everything needs to change. And the reason for that is because sitting in the unknown can be so uncomfortable. I don’t know what’s coming. I feel like I need to do something so I can control the outcome of what comes next. And don’t get me wrong, you can succeed doing that. 

I just don’t know how happy a lot of people end up when you do that for too long and too often, eventually the change that is meant to come to you will find its way. You can’t outrun it. You have to create space for it eventually. Or it’s been my experience that the universe creates it for you. Something falls apart, something that you have been ignoring, that needed to change, starts to not work anymore. And then we’re left with like, okay, well, now what do I do? The universe took it away. Now I don’t have the choice. But I think what we have to do is we have to shift our idea and our mindset around what the unknown is. The unknown, I understand is scary because we want to know because knowing makes our brains feel safe. 

NLP teaches us that your brain will constantly be trying to. And, you know, when we work with clients, give them a roadmap. Because if they are afraid of what they will do next or where they come to next, or how this will all play out, it doesn’t mean that they’re necessarily scared all the time. But their mind is trying to work that out. And if it’s trying to work that out, it’s not focusing on other things that would be more productive and healthy for it. It’s the same reason. Like when I get onto a call with people, I tell them, so this is how it’s going to go. We’re going to talk about this. I’m going to ask you a few questions and then we’ll do questions at the end. Is that okay? When I start my readings like that? 

Here’s how it’s going to go. Here’s what you’re going to get after the reading. Here’s what’s going to happen during it. Here’s how you can ask questions throughout. But I’m going to leave a couple of minutes at the end so that you have time to ask those questions so that you can absorb it all and then ask some at the end. But you can also interrupt me throughout the reading if you need to. That letting them know where things are going to go and how things are going to go gets them leaning back and sitting back and relaxing versus wondering, is this going to come up? Are we going to talk about this? Are we going to do this? Can I ask questions? I don’t want your mind elsewhere. 

So the mind always wants to figure it out because the mind’s job is to keep you safe. So it’s always trying to figure out what’s coming next and how do we make the future more favorable for us so that we stay safe. But what we have to do is we have to shift that perspective on the unknown. It doesn’t have to be scary. The magic happens in the unknown. Because everything else is everything we’ve always gotten. Now I get it. If everything has been going really well and now you’re feeling a shift and you’re feeling like things are changing or they need to change or something’s not working the way that it used to, it can be scary because it’s like, oh, no, I was just getting comfortable just means that you are ready for your next level. 

And if you’re listening to the show and you’re a human design enthusiast or you’re an expert or you’re an entrepreneur who’s looking to feel more connected in their work, I get it. You know, you’re on an evolutionary journey. If you were satisfied with the same thing day in and day out, you would just go get a job. You would just go do what everybody else is doing, but you’re not. You chose this. You chose the unknown, and that’s awesome. But now you have to keep choosing it. You have to keep choosing the magic versus the scary mystery. You have to keep choosing yourself in that moment. And this is why evolution requires this kind of balance of space and action, of masculine and feminine. 

These principles, they need to be balanced, or we end up in a hyperactive state of one or the other hyperaction, where we’re just scattering that energy like I spoke about before, or we are retreating and resisting and fearful of taking action, of really going out and doing anything. But what I found is that the more curious we become about ourselves, the more aware we become of what is happening in the moment. The truth, I am uncomfortable. I’m scared. This is the work that I do with efts. So much of it is honoring where you are right now and coming to terms with that, clearing the energy around the emotion so that it can just be pure. And you’re not led by that emotion, and it’s not driving you. And there isn’t fear bubbling under the surface. 

Because when we have fear bubbling under the surface, we start to get more of the things that were scared of happening. They start to show up for us because we’re operating in that field versus the field of possibility. Your evolution can be anything that you want it to be. This is what the embodiment journey is about. Embodying possibility, embodying your gifts and your way so that you are guided on your own path. You’re not looking to the outside world, wondering, you know, should it be like that? Should it look like that? Should I do what she did? That can all be data. That can all be really exciting, interesting things for you to chew on. But I know when I get ideas about Something, you know, as an emotional authority, I have to wait so I might hear something that sounds really good. 

But my process is to hang out with that for a while and then see do I get something to respond to later on that drives me to take an aligned action versus me. Just saying something’s gotta change. I heard about this idea shift. She said it worked for her. I’m gonna go do that thing that is probably going to get you. It’s like a one way ticket to burnout town. And usually the results are not anywhere near what we wanna make them. It’s not calculated enough, it’s not inspired enough. To tell you the truth, it’s coming from a place of lack. I’m scared that what I’m doing now won’t work. So I’m gonna change to doing the thing that person said worked. And I’m gonna do that thing and I’m gonna do it quickly because I’m so afraid. 

When you’re in that energy of fear, we get more of what we don’t want. If you’re in the energy of lack, you will start to see lack all around you. You will start to feel that, you will start to experience that. This is why embodiment is more than understanding. Embodiment is being able to have presence enough to know what you are feeling, to know what your energy is aligned with. Have the tools to work through that. Ask yourself, am I clear energetically here? This is why all of our clients in business by design get my deconditioning library. If you are in a state, recognize that state, move the energy around that and then see what action feels aligned after that. Align with your possibility. Now you’ll notice that there’s a shift in you when you align with possibility. When you can really. 

I don’t want to use the word attach because I don’t like the word attachment when it comes to results, but can you connect with a vision? It’s very difficult to connect with a vision of something positive when you are in a negative state. This is a great test for you. So can you visualize something really good happening and have that vision and hold it and really feel like it’s possible? If there’s even a part of you that can’t see it can’t really connect to it, can’t really. It’s just not coming through. It doesn’t really feel real to you or more. Fear gets stirred up when you try to envision something big. So if you try to envision, you know, your $500,000 year and you’re creating this vision around it. You’re creating what it could look like. 

And you’re, you’re really playing in the what ifs, the best thing could happen kind of realm. I’m playing the what if awesome game instead of the what if doom game. Right. So you’re playing it, you’re doing it, you’re really able to do that. Then you’ll notice that the action that you have to take will just start to appear. That possibility you connected to will start to make the next steps a lot clearer for you. But what happens is when we, you know, you’re trying to envision that $500,000 a year, but deep inside the fear is stirring because there’s a bill that, you know it’s bigger than you thought it would be and more money is going out than is coming in. And oh my God, oh my God. 

If that’s where your energy is, you have to deal with that because you’re embodying your fear. You’re not embodying your future. And by embodying your fear, you’re going to make decisions in alignment with that fear and it will affect your results. This is what real feminine energy is about. It’s about recognizing that when you embody possibility, if you can truly energetically connect with it, you can create it. Those questions about what am I going to do? They start to go away. I’m not saying instantly. And this is the thing, the part of you that wants instant results and instant action and instant answers is a less evolved version of you than your highest self. Your highest self is not anxious. She’s not scared. She knows that what she embodies and is energetically a match for, she will get. 

So your first job has to become the energetic match for what you want and recognize how you might be already an energetic match for what you do not want. And we’re all going to have times where this is going to be. There’s going to be some times where this work feels so easy. This work feels so like. It’s like this is who I am. I embody this higher level version of myself. I embody all of this stuff. It’s all working. And then there are going to be periods where this is more challenging for you than before. This is why there is no one tool for entrepreneurship. There is no one thing that you need to learn. 

You when have to become the next level version of yourself, the greater results and opportunity you want to bring in, you have to raise yourself to the level of those results and those opportunities. When we talk about being the version of yourself who has those things already, that’s about. That is about adjusting, regulating and expanding your nervous system to handle what’s happening in the here and now and still believe to this to a cellular level that everything you want is coming to you. This is what it means to be unshakable. It’s what I named the show for a reason. Because this work makes you unshakable. 

Even in periods where it’s extremely difficult, you can find yourself, you can find your way back to that centered place where anything can happen, where you get to choose what life looks like and really feel it and start to see things turn around. I want to call out that we have these beautiful one one private retreats with me here in Austin. If you’re looking to really connect with both the masculine and feminine in your business, you don’t have to have a business to do one of these because it’s completely private and totally curated and customized to you. 

If you’re interested in coming to Austin, Texas with me, spending two days with me, having a private call with me prior to prepare and to set goals and intentions, meet with me for two days, be put up in a beautiful place here in Austin, Texas, have an entire weekend with me curated, this is on your schedule and my schedule. We don’t have to have it. There’s no set days that I’m doing this. This is all about you coming in, saying that when you want to do it, and we figure out a date based on our two calendars. 

I curate an entire experience of practitioners and myself and work that we’re going to do to get you to your goals, whether it be to remap your funnel, to rework your messaging so that we get to your core arguments for the next level client that you are calling in. If you want to dive into your human design and weave all of that together, we will do all of that together based on your goals and your intentions. And then after the retreat is over, we don’t just send you off on your way. We give you 30 days of voxer access with me where you get to ask me any questions and you get to integrate everything that we worked on together for the next 30 days. This is the most exciting offer I have ever put together. 

I am so like beyond thrilled to be offering this because this is the level that I’ve desired to work with people on, to go this deep, to have it be this personal and the fact that it’s in person and is just honestly, it’s just going to take it to the next level. This is like everything that I do with my private clients condensed into a two day in person event and then that integration period, I get to do that. So in a month we can transform you and your business. I’m so excited about it. If you’re interested in applying for this, please DM me the word retreat or go to nicolelaino.com forward/retreat and you can fill out the application and we will get back to you with details. All right. I hope to see you in there. Thank you so much for being here. 

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