Episode 427:


Hello and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design, everybody. I’m your host, Nicole Laino, and I am so happy to be here with you today. I want to talk about money. I want to talk about abundance today. What I’ve been noticing with a lot of people lately, there’s a lot of fear. I think we’re in the energy of fear right now. I think there’s a lot of uncertainty in our lives. If you’re in America, in the country, there’s a lot of uncertainty. Collectively, we’re going through a lot of change. We’re coming to the end of 2025, and this was the year of the snake. The snake is about shedding. It is about letting go. It is about saying, this no longer serves me. I don’t need it anymore. I am going to let it all go. 

Shedding identities, changing, evolving, and keeping going. Now, I’ve never talked to a snake personally, but shedding is not uncomfortable from what it would seem and from a human standpoint of ego death and changing and evolving and shifting. As a human, I personally know that is not comfortable, and I know it from working with people. But I also know it from having gone through several iterations of it myself, and I know I have not had my last of them, because that’s what growth is. Evolution does require us to let go of parts of ourselves that no longer fit the future vision. But while all of this is happening, I think that it would be helpful to talk about some principles and overall principles about money and abundance and what I have noticed. 

So in this episode, what I’m going to talk to you about is I’m going to talk to you about how the universe has your back even when it looks like it doesn’t. We’re going to break down a universal principle that most people forget. When times are tough, and particularly in business, this can be really difficult for people. And it’s something that, you know, this is the work that I do is bringing people back to these truths. So you could be here in this moment versus in the being triggered by past feelings coming up or future tripping into, oh, my God, what’s going to happen? Can we come back and ground ourselves in this moment, in these principles and these truths. And this is, you know, the energy of becoming unshapeful. So we’re going to talk about all of that. 

I’m going to break that down and then I’m going to talk about like just three parts to money and abundance. There are three main principles at work and you kind of need to be paying attention to all of them if you want to live in an expanded place versus in a contracted place. Let’s start there for just a second. I just want to take a moment and riff on this a little bit of the difference between contraction and expansion. You know, the difference between what the two feel like. You know, when things feel hard, you know, when you feel fear, shame, guilt, worry, when you’re in the energy of these things, you’re contracted. What that usually does is it triggers our minds to go into overdrive because we want to figure it out, we want to feel safe. 

Ultimately, this is what money is the energy of. It’s the energy of safety and support. And the lack of it usually means that we feel unsafe and unsupported. And what I see over and over again is what people will do is they will feed into this lack and fear and go into overdrive in their thinking, try to fix the lack through action, and then they’re taking action in the energy of lack. And that often doesn’t lead to what they want to create. Now, on the flip side, I see people who do the work, who heal, who go through all of the expansion work to get out of that contracted state and things start happening for them, but it doesn’t necessarily happen the way that they thought it would. 

And I understand this, I really get this, how this can be a bit of a mind fuck for us because what we can do, and this is kind of that principle that most people forget when times are tough in business, especially, because in business what we do is we’re thinking, you know, we put the order in with the universe, right? We think that’s what manifestation is. We think that’s what being in the energy of what we want is. I told the universe I wanted these things. I said that I wanted 10k months, I said that I wanted 20k months, I said that I wanted all of this stuff. And then you do a thing. So you have a launch, you host an event, you put something out there, you do the thing, right? 

So now you’ve made in your mind a pathway, you’ve made a story. You said, okay, I asked for this thing, I’m doing this particular action. I am putting this offer Out. I am hosting a launch, I am hosting an event. I’m doing these things. Therefore, the money will come. The thing that I asked for will come through this channel. The principle is that most people forget is that we get to ask for whatever we want. We don’t get to choose how it comes to us. So there’s one rule that exists in my world and with my clients in our programs, like in business by design, is I always say, like, don’t shit on a win if money comes to you if things happen. So I used to say this all the time. 

I used to get frustrated because I was working really hard in my business and I was healing and I was going through all of my stuff while I wasn’t done. I hadn’t healed completely, but I was actively doing it. I’m thinking back to like 20, 21, when I was, you know, I got certified in EFT. I was tapping all the time. I was really going into my beliefs, my energy blocks, all of those things. I was doing Reiki healings. I had all these things going on, Hired shamans. I did all of those things right. And now I’m watching for, when is the money going to show up? And the money would come, but it would come through my husband. I would look at it and I’d be like, I’m still a failure, was the belief that I had. I’m still a failure. 

And I think that this example illustrates sort of the energetic principles that are at play. Rather than being grateful that I got what I asked for, it just didn’t come the way that I thought it would come or the way that would validate me. It came through the path of least resistance, almost to the dollar. The numbers that I would be asking for would come in some unexpected, out of the blue, completely random bonus that my husband would get. He’d be like. He’d come in the office and he’d be like, oh, they just gave me a bonus. Be like, really? For how much? And it’d be like, the exact amount that I was, like, writing down in my journal that I wanted to create in my launches or in whatever I was doing. And I’d be like, why? That’s supposed to be mine? 

Because I needed that validation at the time. Rather than being grateful that it came that I got what I asked for, it showed up differently than I thought it would. That’s like that first step. And I see this with entrepreneurs all the time. I see this with people all the time where they ask for something and then it comes to them in A different way. We had this come up recently with someone that I know, someone that I’m working with, where they got offered a job, and the job is doing exactly what they want to do, exactly what they built their business around, only someone’s going to pay them to do the work. And it’s not perfect, but it is like perfectly aligned with this person’s incarnation, cross with their mission, with everything that they’ve been asking for, this job represents. 

But for them it’s like, oh, but I’m a failure if I take this. If it doesn’t feel good, that’s a different story. But if it does feel good, don’t let a story cause you to spit in the universe’s face, because it did give you what you were asking for. And maybe this is the thing you’re supposed to say yes to right now. The stories we have in our mind are what keep us from abundance. They keep us from the thing that we are trying to create. So what we have to create in our energy is we have to create a sense of safety. And a sense of safety is the essence of trust. This is what expansion feels like. It feels like being in a state of I’ve got this, I’ve totally got this, I’ve got it, no matter what expansion. 

So we’re either in the energy of contraction and contraction, usually for somebody who is a go getter, that will then turn into control. We’ll try to control the situation. Okay, I’m not getting what I want. I’m scared. So I’m gonna try to control this. And I am a big controller. I’m a reformed controller. I love to control things, but when you can sit back and not look to control it, but to actually sit, wait and wait for correct action. And this is what human design helps us with. This saved me. Human design saved me from this. Controlling this need to control things, to jump in and try to rescue myself and rescue my business and to create trust in my body instead and take action from that place. Because when we are in the energy of control, we’re usually in the energy of lack. 

When we’re in the energy of lack, we tend to get more of what we lack. We tend to get more of what we don’t want. But when we are in the energy of expansion, we are in the energy of trust, then we tend to get more of what we actually want. We don’t have to work as hard, we don’t have to push, and people start to come to us for exactly what we are Trying to get them to come to us for what we’re meant for rather than what we think will get us the result that we want. So we push and control and maybe end up doing something that doesn’t feel right because we just want the result. This is the energetic game in business, and this is how it plays. And this is true in all areas of our life. 

This is true in your marriage. This is true in your job, if you have a corporate job. But entrepreneurs, we have the ability. Here’s why it comes up for entrepreneurs a lot more, is because we make the decisions, we take the action. We are the captain of the ship. So we have the ability to change things, which can lead to us trying to control things because we have the ability to do that. You might have to sit back and wait and chill out and just surrender a little bit. If it’s your boss that’s causing you to be in this state. If something goes wrong at work, you might not have the ability to change force. So you’re not going to jump in there and control it because that’s not your job. So it’s saving you a little bit from this controlling sort of energy. 

But I want to talk now about just three parts to the whole money process, the abundance process that I think get lost and what I teach my clients inside business by design. But we are also running Black Friday sales right now. If you’re listening to this, the week of Black Friday, we have sales running all week. And one of the sales is for our money bundle, which this very much encapsulates what you get in here with the things that we tackle in that particular program. It’s three courses, three programs that we’ve put together into basically owning your money destiny. And these are the three parts that are part of it that we take you through so that you can be in the energy of expansion all the time. 

This, I don’t think understanding the energetics of money is an optional thing for, I think, for anybody, but for entrepreneurs, especially because so much of what we make is tied to who we are being and the energy that we are in. So we have greater control over how much money we make. We have greater ability, greater upside potential, but we also have greater downside potential. So this is why I think you have to learn this. It should be required for every entrepreneur to understand the energy of money. So let’s break it down for you into these three pieces that I think get forgotten, get overlooked. One of them gets a little bit too much attention. That not too much attention. It just Gets overshadowed, it overshadows the other two. And you really need all three pieces working or you’re going to be missing something. 

So the first part is one that we often talk about a lot, money beliefs, the money story. What do you have to let go of the triggers around money? And this is one of those things that will cause you to go into the controlling. You will have an experience with money. A bill will come in unexpectedly. You will not have a launch go well, you’ll have a moment where a, you know, you had a great month last month and then this month is shaping up to not be a great month, or maybe it’s a terrible month. And you’re like that fear is usually triggered by some history that you have with money, some history you have with support. 

What I find is that the most common belief that I have to overcome with the people that I work with, and this was the one that I had to work with on myself as well, is this feeling of unsupported. Being unsupported, being unsupported in your life, being unsupported with money, being unsupported, probably from childhood, this shows up. And unsupported doesn’t mean that you don’t have support. I have tons of support. But my story, my inner child did not feel supported, did not feel things came to me easily, did not feel like if I needed somebody, they would be there. So it doesn’t matter what’s in front of me now. If the feeling like money comes, money goes, usually can be tied to feelings that we have in life in general. Money comes, money goes, support comes, support goes. 

The things that you believe and the feelings that you have around money and support are causing the issues you have around money and support. I can’t go into all of it here because it is so vast, but when you look at it, that feeling of unsupported causes you to not build a team because you feel like nobody can do it like you. So you have an overloaded workload. You are burning yourself out. You feel like you can’t afford help, so you have this belief that you have to do it yourself, because the belief underneath that is that you are unsupported. So do you see how it affects the behavior? It’s not just what you’re attracting with. It’s not just like you’re magnetizing crappy things to you because you feel unsupported. 

It means that you are taking action and you are behaving in alignment with the belief and you’re doing it on an Unconscious level. Because you might say it’s very plausible. It makes a lot of sense. We’re talking logically here. I don’t have the money to hire somebody. Maybe you do, maybe you don’t. When I first hired somebody, I did not have the money to hire her. My husband told me not to hire anybody. Why are you hiring somebody? You’ve got to get rid of these people. We’re not making it here. You’ve. But I knew in my heart that I had to or I wasn’t going to be able to do the important things. I couldn’t get it all done myself. I had to overcome that belief and say like, well, I got to figure out how. 

I have to figure out a way that’s an expanded view not in alignment with what my environment was telling me, but also what my beliefs were. I had to overcome that. I had to believe that someone could support me. I had to believe that the universe would support me enough that if I hired somebody and I was able to double my workload because of it, that I could take on more clients, that I could market more, that I could do things better, that the money would come. That’s the energy of trust. If I were in the energy of unsupported, there, I wouldn’t have been able to overcome that with my action. So there’s so many ways that this actually comes up in your business, but this is often one. 

We talk about money blocks, but so many people throw their hands up like it’s something that is beyond them, that they can’t overcome it. It’s a past life thing or it’s something ancestral. And it could be it’s still going to show up in your behavior. It’s still going to be visible to you to show you where your work is. And often people have done work around their money beliefs, but they haven’t done the right work around it. It isn’t just filling out worksheets and workbooks. I approach this from this is trauma, this is money trauma. This is your money memory, as I call it. And your money memory has to be changed. It has to be shifted to be in alignment with what you want, not what you don’t want. So we have to start bringing those views to light. 

We have to start saying like, oh, well, what are they? And I don’t have people fill out a big worksheet and you know, like, fill out this workbook and tell me what your parents thought about money. We do that, but that’s not the end of the work. We’re not Even scratching the surface with that’s just telling us where to look. Now the work is, okay, well, let’s go into them. Let’s go into those beliefs. Let’s dive in there and really get to the emotion of what we’re feeling here. Because the emotion is what ties the story to you. If there’s no emotional connection, you will forget it. You will not have any sort of tie to it. You’ll be able to let it go very easily. 

But if it’s a pattern and something you are experiencing over and over again, then you haven’t cut that tie. There is an emotional connection, and that needs to be severed or healed is more of a. Is a nicer way to say it, but that needs to be healed in order for you to move forward. The emotional connection we have to our past experiences are the glue that holds us to those past experiences. If we have experiences with lack. If we have experiences and there was an emotional connection. You know, I would feel embarrassed in school when I was younger because I was constantly told we couldn’t afford things. I was constantly told if I wanted new sneakers, it was, you know, the knockoff brand, and everybody had the brand names. And I like my stuff. I really do. I always did. 

And I was always told that I couldn’t have it. My grandparents would buy me something. You know, I had to wait for, like, Christmas or birthday to get something that I really wanted. And, like, it would kill my mother to buy something that she could have gotten cheaper someplace else. Like, the label meant nothing to her. But to me, I did care. And I would rather get one present than 10, one that I really wanted than 10 that I wasn’t very excited about. That’s just me. I’m not saying that’s the right way, but what I had was I had a lot of embarrassment and a lot of feeling like, everything’s expensive. We’ll never have enough. They’ll never be enough. We were always struggling with money, and it was very vocal in my home. I had to go back into those memories. 

I had to go back in and heal that and actually confront what it was that smaller version of me was feeling. So we have to do that. And that’s the money memory. That’s the first part. The second part is the manifestation. And we talk about this. A lot of people talk about this manifestation is get confused, I think, a lot with, you know, like, just thinking about things. We think about things. We think about what we want. We put our order in with the universe. As I like to Say, but when you place an order with Amazon, not that we want to place orders with Amazon, but you know what I mean. You place an order with Amazon, you are sure it will show up, right? Even if it’s late, you’re like, I’m. It’s going to get here. You’re not thinking about it. 

You’re not watching the door all day if you just ordered something that you need. You’re not like peeking out the window, are they here yet? Are they here there? Are you here yet? No. You go about your day. You live your life. You go to sleep that night. You wake up the next day, you’re like, it should get here sometime today. You trust that it will be there. That energy of trust is what you need when you put in an order with the universe. For what you ask, for what you are looking for. Being in the energy of trust. I don’t know when it’ll show up, but it’s coming. I don’t know it’ll show up, but I know it’s on its way. I don’t know when. I don’t know how, but I know it’s coming. 

Because as long as I believe that it’s mine already, then I will see it. The problem with most people is that, well, one, this works, and they see it work. And you’ve probably had this experience too, where you have been really dialed in. You felt energetically connected and like, it feels like the world is wired in your favor that you’re like, I don’t know, like it’s all happening. It’s all happening. It’s all working. And you feel that. And that leads to usually more and more of it, because you were in the energy of things happening, and you were probably doing step three as well, which we’ll talk about that in a second, because that’s an important piece to this. But it just. It feels like everything is working. It feels like you turned a corner. It feels like it’s all happening. 

And then a challenge shows up and that says to you, well, maybe it’s not working anymore. Oh, no. Now you get into contraction. Even though right in front of you might be evidence that everything is in fact okay in this moment, that everything is in fact all right. I have people who do this too, where they’re panicking about their business, and they do have a spouse or a partner or somebody who can handle the load, and they are still making money in their business, and it’s still going. It’s just not going as well as it did before. And I understand this as well, that this causes them to panic, and then that energy of panic forces them back into that energy of control. Now, we’re not in that manifesting energy. We are manifesting. 

We’re just manifesting with what we don’t want rather than what we do want. So these little moments of challenge are. I don’t like the word test because it seems like the universe is like, let me see if she could really handle it. I don’t really think it works like that. I think things just happen. And then the test is our test. Where can I stay in the energy of what I want, even when it seems like it’s not going to happen? Can I stay open to possibility rather than going on a downward spiral? This is a test both universally, because the universe responds to that energy. If we stay in it corrects itself. It will work it out, and we’ll get what we need. Right. 

Sometimes it’s giving us that challenge to show us where there’s something in our energy that’s not open to the next thing that we’re asking for. Triggers are gifts. So once you do that initial clearing in the first stage of, you know, all of your money beliefs, then if something comes up, I still have stuff come up. I’ve done tons of clearing and been doing this work for years. I still have stuff come up because I don’t have everything that I want. I’m not a perfect human being. I have challenges. I have triggers still. But the difference is that they’re not so deeply rooted that I can’t see them. I’m aware of them. 

And I know that if I get triggered, I say thanks, because that’s the universe showing me where I have instability in my energy, where I am not trusting, where I’m still connected to something I don’t want. So rather than freaking out about, oh, my God, what does this mean? I just say, what is the trigger? What am I feeling here? And I can move through it, and I can clear that and shift it very quickly. The art of shifting in the moment is an art that every entrepreneur needs to cultivate. We need to master this because it is going to be rocky at times. It is going to. The economy is going to shift. People aren’t going to buy. There’s going to be changes. We’re going to want to change. You might want to do something different in your business. 

That’s going to be a scary move. But can we be in the energy of trust while we walk through and make those changes, or are we in the Energy of lack and fear. You’re a human. It’s human to be afraid. I get it. I worry. I just don’t stay there. And that’s the difference between people who continue to move forward and up without major setbacks and the people who fall down and don’t get back up. Not every year is your best year, but it’s. What do you do from that place of being like, this wasn’t my best year. Do you make it mean something about you and what next year will be? Or do you say, okay, this is what I’m dealing with. I’m going to feel all the feelings that I’m feeling here, and I’m going to work on my expansion here. 

I’m going to expand my energy. I’m going to really tap into what I want. This is manifestation. This is the second part. I want to be in the energy of what I want, not the energy of what I don’t want. And then the third piece is action. Action in alignment with your belief, with your positive belief, and taking action in the energy of expansion. Not desperation. Desperate action is contraction. We don’t get what we want, or we don’t get as much of what we want in that space. You can make something happen with hustle, but it’s not sustainable. And it often doesn’t pay off the way that we want it to. So. Or it creates some sort of like, desperation or the wrong people or something all around it. But when we are in this energy of expansion, it’s contagious. 

And when we are in action in that, it’s easier to take more action. It’s very easy to. To do more and to be more truly productive. I don’t mean busy, but to be truly productive, to do the things you say you want to do, the things that serve your vision, the things that truly align with what you want to create in this life. When you are in the energy and energy of belief, when you are believing that it’s already happened, it’s very easy to walk in that direction. If you believe that the launch is going to be successful, it’s pretty much easy for you to show up for it. If you believe that the launch will not be successful, it’s probably going to be harder for you to show up and do that work. 

If you really don’t believe it’ll work, or you’re going to be trying to control it so badly that you ruin the experience of it, and then you’ll wonder when it’s done, did I create this result with my energy or Was there something actually wrong with the way that I did this? This is that sometimes we need a strategic answer to a problem, and sometimes there’s an energetic answer, and often it’s both. But the energy of money is always at play. The energy of expansion is always at play. The energy of contraction always at play. We have to start to see this. And if you can start to see it, then you realize, I feel like it’s like when Neo in the Matrix starts to see the bullets going by. And it can start to see, oh, I can slow it all down. 

That’s what this starts to become. It starts to become something where you’re like, oh, I see what’s happening here. It’s not something I take personally. It’s not something that I’m caught up in. I’m not in the Matrix and witnessing it. And that’s the level that we want to get to, and that’s the level where I’m not going to say that it’s all perfect. I’m perfectly honest with you here. There are times where I am not graceful, I am not my best self. I just don’t stay there long. And I have enough presence to not get sucked into the fears of the moment so deeply that I can’t get myself out of them. I can quickly come back to a neutral place. And I do that through my tools. I do that through journaling, I do that through. 

I speak what I want out loud and I bring myself back. I do it through gratitude, but I do it mostly through the tools that I use constantly, which are eft, breath, work. I do them every day. And that’s to keep me at a neutral state, to start my day from a neutral place, to not start my day with fear in my body, to really recognize what’s there, honor it, witness it, but not put energy into it. And to bring my body back to a neutral place so that energetically I’m not bringing anything I don’t want into my actions. Right. So this bundle is going to be on sale during the Black Friday sale. If you’re interested in any of our offers, we have some really amazing offers that are available to you. Black Friday. 

Just DM me the words Black Friday on Instagram and we’ll send you the list of deals and all the things or go to nicolelaino.com Black Friday that will be available there too. There’s a website there for you to check out the deals that are available. We’re doing a deal a day, so you can check those out. The money bundle is available. This is on like a crazy sale. It’s like this. A stupidly low price for what we normally charge for this. So if this interests you and this feels like something that you have to work on, I highly recommend this money bundle. It’s really amazing. You should check it out. It’s also on our website all the time, but it’s on sale for Black Friday, so don’t miss out on that if you catch this in time. 

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