Episode 469:

Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design. I’m your host, Nicole Laino. And today this episode is really going to be for my Human Design nerds. And I consider myself kind of a leader of the nerds, so to speak. I love this stuff. I don’t want the surface level things. I have all the books. It’s for those people. You’ve read it all, you have listened to it all, but somehow you still can’t get enough. And you want to go deeper, but people don’t seem to go deeper. So this episode is for you if you feel that way. We are going to go deeper. 

We are going to get into the nuts and bolts of really why this works and some of the things that have been coming through for me lately, just personally and what I’ve noticed in my work and what I have been observing in other people, and I’m finding it very exciting. And I think that this is. I think this episode, my goal with it is for you to just have this maybe a perspective shift. Maybe it’s a deeper knowing, maybe it’s a deeper trust. Maybe we shed some light on some little things. Like, you’ll go, oh, wow, okay, that makes sense why that works the way it works or why it feels the way it feels. Right? So I hope by the end of this episode, you feel more in tune with your design. You feel like you get it a little bit more. 

If you were intrigued before, now you feel like, oh, like I’m really understanding why I’m so drawn to this. Okay, so we’re going to dive into it all, and maybe there’ll be some terms or areas that you’re not familiar with, and we’ll shed light on those, or maybe we’ll just go a little bit deeper or sometimes. People often tell me that the way that I explain things or when I bring it up or when I share my reflection, that they receive it and they receive it differently. And that’s actually at the heart of what we are talking about today. Why is it that when we say some things, when some people say things, when some people connect with us, when we have you receive something from somebody else, it actually, like, hits. Why is that? 

So we’re going to be covering all of this stuff today, but that is at the heart of what today’s episode is. It’s like, why does human design work for things like business? Why does human design work for putting us on our path where our mind choosing the path can’t necessarily bring us? You know, I have a lot of people that will do work with me through human design, and they’ll end up doing something very different than they came into our container looking for. You know, they’ll be like, oh, I want to be a coach. And then they’ll end up doing something totally different in the business world. Or maybe they do something outside of the business world. Everybody has their own path. 

And it’s very interesting to watch people come home to themselves and realize that the things that they thought they wanted, they didn’t actually want, that there was something else that was pulling them toward these things, and that wasn’t their truth. And when they discovered their truth, they’re like, oh, this is where I belonged all along. I couldn’t see it, right? So we’re going to go through all of that. Like, why? Why does that happen? Why is human design this tool that seems to feel like coming home? Right. I’ve been having this feeling lately where I was saying to. I was talking actually to Christina Luna, and I was saying how I really felt. Like, I’ve been getting a lot of intuitive hits. I’ve been journaling a lot. There’s been a lot that I have been working myself through. 

And I told her, like, as I journaled, and then I read back some of the stuff that I wrote. It was like, I didn’t write it. That I was kind of saying to myself, I’m like. It’s like I’m remembering things that I didn’t have access to before. It’s not like I’m learning something new. It’s like I’m relearning something that very old that maybe is lifetimes ago or generations ago that I just. I lost connection to, or there was some barrier between me and that knowing, and that barrier is becoming thinner. So why does human design sometimes feel like that? Remembering? Why is it a path to remembering, you know, to that feeling of because I felt that way with human design, where it was like. It’s like, oh, this is exactly what’s right. And it didn’t feel new. It felt very old. 

It felt new to me in this moment, but like something that was very familiar, right? It’s like, you know, you hear the chords of a song or something, and you’re just like, oh, I know that song. I. I know I’ve heard it before. Even if you can’t place the name and if you can’t place the. The exact lyrics, you’re like, I know that song. So there’s a reason for this feeling. And we’re going to kind of explore all of that here today. And if you’re interested in this topic, we actually created something very cool. I’ve never done anything like this before. And it’s funny, I was talking to my team. I’m like, I can’t believe I’ve never created anything like this before. But here we are. I created a coaching by human design guide. 

And so this is really about, you know, exploring a lot of what we’re talking about in this episode about why it works and why it works specifically in the coaching industry. Because we are here to guide people. And the coaching industry in a lot of ways was guiding people to the not self. Was guiding people to be like me. And I think human design and getting human design into the hands of more people who are looking to guide people. And this can be. If you’re looking to guide your kids or you’re looking to guide your spouse, or you’re looking to guide or just understand people better, this guide, we take you through, like, some techniques and ways that I think about guiding the types and just some more of these concepts. 

Like I’ll be talking about today of what human design means and why it works and what. Why it’s so needed now. So it’s a really detailed guide. It’s like over 20 pages. All you have to do to get it is DM me the word “COACH”, like stick shift or have a shift in something. “COACH” DM me that word on Instagram. I’m @nicolelainoofficial or go to nicolelaino.com/coach screw that word up. Sometimes I get a lisp forward slash coach. And you can download it right there on the website. Okay, so back to this concept about human design. Feeling like home. So why does it feel like home? Why does it feel like a remembering? Why does it feel familiar? Why does it feel so right that when you do it, you’re just like, there’s something here. This is right. 

To download a copy of Nicole’s Free Guide – The Coaches Guide to Human Design DM her “COACH” onInstagram or go to nicolelaino.com/COACH 

And I want to introduce you to, if you don’t already know it, to the concept of a fractal. We don’t talk about it much here. I don’t use the term all the time. I might say it, but I don’t know if I necessarily dig into what it is and why it matters. So we are pieces of a whole, right? We are pieces of the whole. We are not the whole. While it feels that way as an individual walking through this life, that, like, I am me and here I am and, you know, I’m just me. And then there’s other individuals in this world and everybody has their own individual thing, but it’s not actually like that. That’s not actually the truth. We are actually pieces of a whole. And obviously, you know, there are two sides to the human design chart. 

There’s the personality side and there’s the design side. These terms that we would use in traditional human design, we would talk about them as crystals of consciousness. The personality crystal, which is. Comes into your body on your birthday, and the design crystal, which is what we get from that 88 degrees prior to your birth. That’s when that crystal enters your being and creates you, right? So. Or it’s when it’s developed. So these two pieces, the personality crystal and the design crystal. I’m going to use the term crystal here because I think that it helps to understand the fractal thing, right? The crystals, we are not a whole crystal. We are a piece of it. That the crystals were once this one big crystal and they all burst apart. And this is how that we are all stardust. 

We are all pieces of something and we’re all representing a piece of the whole. But this is something that we often forget. So. So these crystals of consciousness blow apart and now we are the pieces out, and we are further out from and disconnected from that original family that were a part of, right? The ones that were close to us in that big crystal, as were all part of one thing. There was some pieces. There are some other fragments out there that were very close to you, were right next to you. And there’s some level to us unconsciously that knows that those pieces exist, that they’re out there somewhere, right? The soul family, so to speak. The fractal family is how we would look at it. So the way that this works is that the universe is on these infinite repeating patterns. The geometry. 

You’ve probably heard me say that on this show a couple of times, where if you think about us not on Earth, think about us moving through space through an energetic field. And the energetic field works on these repeating, infinite patterns of geometry, sacred geometry. So if you’ve ever seen sacred geometry patterns out there like the flower of life and how these. And if you go into nature, you’ll see that these are patterns that are everywhere. In nature. This is proven in science. So all of these infinite repeating patterns are. What we are doing is we are on these patterns, and we are unconsciously trying to find our way back to the one where the rest of our little fractal family exists. How do we connect with them? How do we get on them? 

So when you’re not self, when you are out of alignment, then you are on the wrong geometry. You are on some other. The vision I get in my head is I have these, like, crystal grids that sacred geometry. If you’ve ever seen a crystal grid, which I have them, they’re like coasters. I have, you know, these wooden spheres, these wooden circles, panels. And they have sacred geometry on them. And you lay crystals on them. And in my mind, I see them as like if you saw. Like if you just had hundreds and thousands of these little panels, right? Well, when you’re out of alignment, you’re on the wrong panel. So you keep going around in this infinite repeating pattern on that same panel. And you’re not with the right people. You’re not doing the right things. You’re not seeing what you’re meant to see. 

And all of these aspects that I’m saying here, being with the right people, your G center, connecting with people through your profile correctly, the way that you go about your life will draw you to those right people. The what you are meant to see, your personality nodes, and the way that you are meant to see things, you won’t see what you’re meant to see if you’re on the wrong panel. So this fractal family, your fractal family, exists on a specific panel. And we’re all kind of unconsciously trying to find our way back to that place, right? To that fractal family. The people, the places, and the purpose that you belong to or that belongs to you. This is why I believe, or the things that I have been contemplating and pondering lately are, you know, why do we get the calling? 

Why do we get the instinct? Why do we get the pull towards something that doesn’t necessarily make sense? It was really uncomfortable. If you think about a calling, I think something that I’ve been thinking lately is, you know, is the calling that family calling to you? Is it that correct panel? Is it that correct geometry that is that magnetic pull is getting stronger? Why do we magnetize certain people to us? Well, when we’re pulling the right people to us, everything seems to be working right. Well, how does that even happen? How do we start to magnetize? And that word feels so overused to me at this point because people have been saying it for so long and in ways that have sort of cheapened it. But this is what we’re really talking about. 

Magnetizing people to you is being able to connect with your fractal family, with the people that you are meant to connect with. You are meant to lead. Maybe, maybe you are meant to be led by. In some cases, a fractal family isn’t seven people. Don’t think about it like a family like that you have in your house. Your fractal family is going to could be thousands and thousands of people. So we have to start to surrender to something different than our mind, because our mind will program us to be jumping around and moving around, looking in all the wrong places for what we are searching for. We’ll get our ego involved, we’ll get what other people are doing involved, we’ll get other people’s paths. 

And that’s why I think the coaching industry has gotten so distorted, because it’s wonderful to teach somebody what you know, but it’s wrong to teach somebody to be you. That’s not anybody’s job. Nobody’s meant to be you. Nobody is meant to be me. My clients aren’t meant to be me. They’re meant to be them. And it’s my job to guide them back to the knowing that they have and to following their soul and their process so that they find that correct geometry. So they get the right people at the right time and things start to feel like they are on their path. The path I think, is like, if you think about it, this being on the correct geometry, it really is like being on a path, right? 

Because it’s almost like we’re on this track and we’re either on the right one or the wrong one. We either wake up and we go, this wasn’t my stop. I’m on the wrong train. Or we wake up and we go, oh, this is where I was meant to be all along. If we’re on the wrong path, if we’re not finding our correct geometry, then we’re never really waking up, which is what we’re all here to do according to human design. We’re all here to wake up to the program. We’re all here to wake up and say, I see how I’ve been led by outside forces and I’m finally coming home to what is true to me. To the point where the outside doesn’t call to you in the same way. You have a different relationship to it. And. 

And this is where we get to like the meat of how this works in business. Now I’m not saying that to get human design to work in your business is a hundred percent alignment thing. I think anytime that we get our like ego desires in there of like wanting to make money and wanting to succeed and wanting to do certain things, of course we might have a little bit more of our seven centered three dimensional world involved in here. The material world. We live in the material world. I don’t expect anybody to be 100% in alignment 100% of the time. I think that’s a tall order for the world that we live in because that would probably require you to have a level of trust. Frankly, I don’t have. I need to know where my money is coming from. 

I need to know and I have a lot of trust to move forward in faith. But I also do have priorities of taking care of myself and my family. And I like nice things, I want to go places, I want to enjoy my life and maybe that is part of my destiny too. So we do have to suspend a little bit of this. So when we’re talking about business, I want to be really clear, you know, there is a business aspect to the business part, but this energetic part is what I want to get to here. The energetic part is why I teach human design with business. Because the energetic part is going to lead you to what works for you. And I’ll use myself as a little bit of an example here. 

So following this is like the mechanical process here when we’re talking about the inner workings of human design and how this all works. Inner authority. So we all get one right? I’m an emotional authority. You might be splenic or you might be an ego authority or a self projected authority, or maybe you’re a lunar authority. That inner authority that you have the ability to tune in, not out and to tune into yourself. When you follow your design, that is how you will develop all of those things that I was talking about before. Your correct perspective. You’ll be around the right people. You will start to do that naturally. You won’t be thinking about it like should I be in this room or should I go here? It’s going to be you come back to your authority. 

It’s not going to be your mind making those decisions. It’s going to be your gut or your emotions or through your process. Basically. Now this is so important because when you are truly following that is the only way to through being around the right People through having the right experiences, through living the life you are meant to live, seeing what you are meant to see. That perspective, that’s what I talk about in the cosmic niche. The cosmic niche is about seeing what you are meant to see and being around the people that will help you see it, that you are meant to help with what you see. It’s a multi dimensional thing. It’s not just this is how you can start writing a niche statement. It isn’t about that. 

It’s about really connecting with who are the people that are here to nurture your purpose, either through you delivering for them or them giving you an experience you’re meant to have so that you can see what you are meant to see. Right. This is how we develop through that process. That’s you becoming who you’re meant to become. That is you developing in the way that you were built to develop that perspective. You’re going to say the things, you’re. 

Going to say different things. 

If you’re aligned, you’re going to have different thoughts. If you’re aligned, you’re going to have a different message, you are going to have a different mission than if you are aligned, than if you are not. Right? So what you’ll find is that what that is doing is that is developing what we call your outer authority. You can’t have outer authority until you have inner authority. You can’t be an authority to others until you are an authority to yourself. You’ve probably heard me say that before, right? When you have outer authority, so. So I don’t believe I have my ultimate outer authority. I think I’m still evolving, developing, growing. And I believe it will get stronger. Whatever that means. It doesn’t mean bigger. I don’t know what it means. I don’t know what my destiny is. And that is something I have to surrender to. 

But as an outer authority, my outer authority, I believe it is strong. I do have people who are incredibly aligned, find me in very synchronistic ways and easy ways. I don’t feel like I have to work terribly hard for it. But I do recognize that there are some levels that I fight myself where I don’t follow things completely. And I know that’s what’s standing in my way and that’s the inner work I have to do. The deconditioning I still have to do. But my outer authority, I am a five line. So my podcast being the place where I deliver my thoughts, my ideas, my perspective, I’m a 5i. I deliver my frameworks, I deliver to you how I think, how I break things down. I make it very easy for you to see a solution in things. Why? Because I am solution oriented. 

And I put that, I make that a priority for me in the way that I think about things. Before I deliver anything to you, I’m really thinking it through so that there is a tangible outcome on the other side for you now, that outcome could be incredible. Understanding, deep understanding. I don’t deal in physical results all the time. I deal in very felt results. But it is practical, it is something that people can use, it is something that changes them. It’s transformative. And that’s what I’m here to be. So my outer authority, this is how my fractal finds me. I’m doing what I meant to do. I am saying what I’m meant to say to the best of my ability right now. 

And I’m doing it in a method, using this podcast as an example in a way that’s very in alignment with my design. And I could go into all of the aspects of my design from my Leo Midheaven, where I need a stage and I need a show and this feels like home for me. But also as a five, you know, we are meant to have influence over the people we don’t know more than the people that we do. So, so the fact that my message resonates with strangers and I’ve made it a priority for me to have a stranger connection platform, that it makes sense that this works for me. It makes sense that my outer authority carries on a platform like this because it is very in alignment for my design. 

Okay, so when you’re not following your design, you’re not calling out to your fractal. That’s why if you put things out there. So if you are a four line and you’re not nurturing your audience to some degree, if you are not nurturing your network and helping them get to know you, then you’re probably going to find that the people you’re trying to reach. So if you’re being very impersonal on Instagram, it might not be Instagram, it might just be the way that you’re approaching Instagram. It might be that you are not nurturing that network of people who already know you there and getting them to introduce you to people or refer people or somehow connect you, or you’re not letting people get to know you. You’re talking like a five and giving them things to do and things to understand. 

But you’re not actually letting them know you as a person. And that will probably break that connection where they don’t feel as attached to you. So your message doesn’t carry as far. That personal side of things for fours typically goes a long way. So that’s why these little tweaks can have such huge implications on our life and on our business, because this is how we’re getting closer to what is meant to work for us. So what we’re noticing here right now is that intuition is coming online in a bigger way. I kind of started the episode off talking about this. You know, the volume is being turned up on our inner conversation, and the outer world is starting to feel a little less reliable. Right? I think. I don’t think that’s an accident that the world feels kind of crazy right now. 

I don’t know about you, but every day I have to stop reading articles and looking at social media because it all just feels insane. And I stay informed, but I have to, like, take a step back because it’s just like, I feel like we’re being overrun by completely crazy people. Like the world gone mad. So these systems and these institutions and these people where everything feels like it’s a mockery, you know, intuition is coming online now because I think we’re being called to tune in more. Right? 

And human design can be that mechanism that is helping us hear that part of us instead of hearing the program, instead of looking more for something to make sense out there or something to work out there or something to, you know, just keep going out to that program, you know, And I don’t think I really talked about that here about the program, but when we do the transit episodes and when we are. When we talk about the program changing, you know, right now, as I record the sun is in Gate three in the human design wheel, we’re programmed by that energy right now. So that program is always guiding us. It’s always pulling us. And it programs the not self. It programs the part of us that is not in alignment. Alignment, it calls to it. 

So that’s why deconditioning is breaking from that program. Not because we’re not affected by it. Of course we are. We can’t turn it off. It’s energy. But we stop looking for guidance from it. We stop blindly going along with it. This is why the term in human design is waking up. That’s why in 2027, it’s called the Cross of the Sleeping Phoenix. The sleeping phoenix is meant to wake up. And it wakes up as an individual, it wakes up to itself. And I think that is what we are all doing right now. I think humanity is waking up to itself. We’re waking up to ourselves. And we’re seeing how my piece of this fractal plays a role in the greater scheme of things. Now, I don’t know what my purpose is because, I mean, I have an idea of it. 

I have my own understanding of it. But do I know? No. I’m not God or the universe. I don’t have some magic connection to it. I just know my incarnation. Cross says I know what my design says. I know what I believe, I know what I feel. I know I have a voice, and I know I’m supposed to use it. I’m a 5:1. I’m meant to use this voice. I’m meant to have a bit of a soapbox and stand on it and tell you what I think is wrong and tell you how I think that we can fix it. And that’s kind of what I do with this show. But maybe I’m part of this waking up. Maybe my job. And not every fractal member is going to stay in your world. Not every fractal member is going to hire me as their coach. 

But you might listen to this show and I might be part of that journey for you. Maybe I’m the catalyst or the piece that makes it make sense enough that you start to take it seriously. And my role is in helping you wake up in this way. I think, truthfully, all of our roles are in helping each other wake up. We all play a role in the Great Awakening. What your role is might not be coaching people or guiding people or having a show like this or anything like that, but your way of waking people up might be in your own community, and it might be through something completely different. You might be tuning them into something totally different than what I’m tuning them into. But you’re waking them up in your way. That’s your job. 

And that’s what life is all about, is finding our path to the things that are right for us. So what all this means for you, I hope that you’re grasping from this episode that this is why following your design works and why sometimes it feels like it doesn’t when we’re not in alignment, why things feel like they fall apart, because you’re not just building a business. That’s the strategic side of things. And I understand that, like, sometimes it feels like we do things and it’s like, I did the Same thing they did and it didn’t work. But at the core, what you’re really doing is you’re sending a signal out to either your people or to the wrong people. You are either shouting to the crowd of people that has their back at you because they’re not your people. 

And you’re wondering why it doesn’t land or you are speaking and the right people are just more and more growing where they are turning toward what you are saying, what you are doing, what you are transmitting, whatever that might be. The geometry doesn’t fight you when you stop fighting it. It’s the not self that fights all of this. It’s the not self that says, maybe it’s over here, maybe you got to do it over there. And that’s why surrendering to the boring part of human design, which is strategy and authority, because strategy and authority is the only thing that is going to take you out of your mind. Because think about it. Even when. And this is why if get the coach’s guide to Human Design, please download it. 

Because I go through these things and the types and if you think you know the types and. And if you think you understand that part and you think you understand strategy and authority can almost guarantee you’re wrong. Because almost everybody I talk to that says to me that they understand that their type and authority and all of that, but they want to go deeper. And then I ask them questions about their type and authority and they really don’t know it. And I have to review it with them and have to bring them back to it. Because in practice it’s completely different. If you are a generator and you’ve asked yourself the question like, oh, was this a response? I think I’m in response. So I’m trying to figure it out. If you’re trying to figure it out, then that’s not it. 

You don’t need to go to your head to know if it’s a response. You go to your body. If you are an emotional authority, you just have to. You are comfortable waiting and you like as an emotional authority and alignment, everything gets kind of stretched out on this timeline that is so uniquely yours that you don’t feel rushed about anything. And the minute you feel rushed, you know it’s wrong. You know that it’s not for you inner conversation you’re kind of always having with yourself, but it is so fluid. And you don’t go up to your head with it. You don’t go into was this or should I that’s the not self trying to hop you over onto that other palette that is not yours, to that other geometry that is not yours. 

So I hope that you download the guide, because I go into this in tremendous detail. And if you’re a coach, you should absolutely download this and keep this by your side, because it’s giving you actually ways that I coach people. The things that I look for and the things that I’m always watching out for and the ways that I speak to and question my clients and get them into alignment to bring them home to themselves, not to become carbon copies of me, which is the greatest disservice that any coach can do to somebody. I don’t care how successful you are or what kind of trappings that life comes with. If you’re helping somebody become not who they’re meant to be and just another version of you, I don’t know if there’s anything more egotistical, and I know that might offend some people. 

But I think from my standpoint of what I know and what I’ve seen and how I have worked with people, I know that this is part of my message, is to stand up for people’s individuality and every single person finding their unique stamp that they’re meant to put on this life, and they cannot find that if they’re trying to be somebody else. That is a fundamental shift that needs to happen. So if you’d like the guide, please go to nicolelaino.com/coach will get it to you there. Or go to Instagram. I’m @nicolelainoofficial and just type the word “COACH” in the DMs and we will send it to you right there. Thank you so much for staying to the end of this episode with me. Thank you for going deep. I hope that you enjoyed it. I hope it gave you some aha’s. 

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I hope it gave you some insight, and I hope that you download the guide and that you continue doing this work with your family, your friends, your clients, and that you spread the magic of human design and what it means to really appreciate people for who they are, not for who we think they should be. Thank you so much. I will see you in the next episode. Remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakable human. So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design. We will see you next time.